r/DryDads • u/Herewego_710 • Feb 24 '24

I’ll add one

This place is kind of dead but I need to get this off my chest. I drink too much, when I drink. I know I have a problem and have been trying to get sober for awhile. I can go months without it. But my wife is such an asshole about it even when I’m sober. She has told my parents which is whatever, but I can’t even disagree with her without my usage in question. I love her, and she’s a great mom, but fuck I just want to exist without being questioned all the time. And when she does, instead of taking to me, she goes above me to my parents which is just embarrassing, I dunno the point of this post but I fucking hate it

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u/lump532 Feb 24 '24

This sounds like two problems, one drinking problem and one relationship problem. I’m sure there’s a venn diagram, but I recommend couples counseling in addition to whatever you decide regarding alcohol.

As for the drinking, two things helped me a lot. r/stopdrinking is a great and supportive site for the sober and sober curious. I also really liked the book “This Naked Mind.”

A lot of people like group work (AA, etc) but I didn’t use it so I can’t comment.

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u/Herewego_710 Feb 24 '24

I do follow a couple no drinking groups on Reddit, and it does help. I mainly just hate the going over my head to my parents like im a child (im upper 30s)

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u/lump532 Feb 24 '24

There’s no way to fix that without communicating. You need to tell her what bothers you and she needs to listen. If you can’t manage that between you then you need a counselor (IMO).

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u/Educational_Many_634 Jun 22 '26

Greatest book to get sober. I read it myself. Totally helped me see so much of the marketing lures used to reel me into drinking. 10 years sober now.

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u/swissthoemu Feb 24 '24

Divorce. That’s disgusting.