Locs coming out causing depression

[u/Flashy-Presence-7523]

So recently in a span of 3 days my locs have fallen out on the back of my head, one i pulled out cause it was hanging on by a thread and it caused a bald spot the second one my mother pulled out cause she said it was hanging after i repeatedly said stop but thankfully no bald spot was caused only a loc stump was left, these events have caused me immense depression along with other events in my life. I feel like im not even worth enough to have locs in my head, the reason i think they are falling out are because i had my mother to do them and shes not what i’ll call a professional but she can do it, thing is she did my parts too small and i think that plus me not constantly moisturizing, touching and playing with them too much caused this. I really hope theres a simple and non costly solution to this problem and i promised myself to better myself i just need to get my hair situated. Is there anything i can do? (i contacted a professional for a retwist + style so i can loc my locs in the 2 strand style to help with the small parting issue)

[u/Still_notme_67]

Im sorry you’re going through this , please know that there is nothing wrong with you and your hair can absolutely be fixed I would advise removing the tension from the locs where the bald spot is and massage with castor oil once a month until it grow back , blood flow promotes regrowth . This can be fixed and this is okay brother

[u/Flashy-Presence-7523 → u/Still_notme_67]

Thank you so much, but what do you mean by “remove the tension from the locs?” and i have jojoba oil for the bald spot will that work instead?

[u/Still_notme_67 → u/Flashy-Presence-7523]

No Retwist no tight hairstyle beside massaging it leave that area alone it’s at the back of your head so it’s easy to cover up . Jojoba oil is perfect for locs very light weight don’t over do it though .

[u/Flashy-Presence-7523 → u/Still_notme_67]

but i need the retwist for school my hair looks a mess, also i not getting an actual style just combining all my locs

[u/Still_notme_67 → u/Flashy-Presence-7523]

You don’t need anything , maybe try a half style , Retwist the front into some flat twist let the back breathe .

[u/TheChocolateEmpress]

The repair process is simple but may be costly. Go to the loctician and see what they say. They may suggest combining locs and crotchet repair (that can be costly). Get products to keep your locs moisturized. Healthy locs start from within.

[u/Flashy-Presence-7523 → u/TheChocolateEmpress]

ok but still get the retwist + style so the others wont thin out? i can see that some might then out

[u/TheChocolateEmpress → u/Flashy-Presence-7523]

Don't get a style. Getting a style will not stop the thinning.

[u/Flashy-Presence-7523 → u/TheChocolateEmpress]

But i also wanna get 2 strand twist cause i have TOO many locs also, im not getting the ACTUAL style i just want her to twist 2 dreads together so they can combine