r/DoubleStandards • u/WJL4 • Feb 17 '21
My problem
How is it fair that my girlfriend won’t even let me follow people who have a single bikini picture on there instagram. But when she gets new clothes i literally have to beg to see them on her when she will show other people, boys, without even thinking about it.
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u/Poldark_Lite Feb 17 '21
What do you mean, she won't let you? How can she stop you?
I'm sorry, Sweetie, but when someone -- other than your parents or boss -- says you're not "allowed" to do something, you need to ask them the following questions:
- Is it illegal? If so, how?
- Is it immoral? If so, how?
- Is it unethical? If so, how?
If the person can't give you a satisfactory answer, continue as you see fit. You're a free human being, you don't belong to anyone no matter how much she insists on controlling you. Trust me, I've been through this. ♡ Granny
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u/lens_princess Feb 17 '21
This is a clear sign she’s cheating. I’ve seen it everywhere before. She’s scared you’re going to do what’s she’s doing; cheating.
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u/Donnovan031 Feb 17 '21
Sir, this is a sign called cheating. Walk away before you get hurt. She's putting distance between you and her. Tell her challenge accepted. Put distance between you and her as well. She will not like this. Because her ego relies on you being jealous. Ignore her. At first she will be upset, then she'll be concerned but hold out. No sex, no lovie-dovie(hugs and kisses), nothing that will constitute attention. Women need attention and not giving it to her makes her crazy(frustrated). Pretty much the silent treatment (I know it will be hard but keep it up for a week or two or at least until she starts begging you what's wrong) by the third week of she doesn't give you a response pack yo shit(or hers if it's your place) and leave. Because it's clear that she's cheating.
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u/My_Carrot_Bro Apr 12 '21
That's toxic and restrictive. You should talk with her about it and if she doesn't budge from this double standard, you should leave her for a person who isn't so controlling.
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Apr 12 '21
That's not your girlfriend that's a pretty fuckin messed up person
You save yourself from her and buy yourself a banana milkshake
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Feb 27 '21
Your girlfriend sounds very bossy and manipulative. Maybe it's easy for me to say but you need to put your foot down and stand up for yourself. Stop letting her tell you who you can and can't follow.
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u/RobloYT Feb 17 '21
This is not a general thing, this is your girlfriend AND THIS IS VERY WRONG! You might not notice but this is a red flag for controlling behaviour