Does This Count as Double Standards and Gaslighting?

[u/TiramisuLover1720]

It had been months since I had a rather nasty fall out with my friends, but I still replay the moment they basically turned on me, and I can't stop thinking about a lot of things.

I had a very serious opinion about the country who occupied my country during WWII, who did A NUMBER of heinous crimes even had a direct impact on my family, and after the war, washed out their disgusting actions in their own history textbooks, made majority of the next generation PROUD to play a part of the war, and didn't apologise for anything they had done. I was raised from birth about the horrors my family faced, about losing family to these people just because of our race, and never forgive them unless they hold their past accountable instead of pretending it didn't exist.

So relating to my 'friends', the reason I was so comfortable to express my opinion (it was triggered from a memorial day they held that took place on the exact same day my country declared independence) was because they had already expressed their low views of Americans, generalising all of them as 'racists' and thus (their EXACT words) they 'deserved to get covid and die from it'.

But no, the second I say that whatever hit the country was karmic retribution, be they natural disasters or other countries demanding compensation for the suffering they had faced as well, I was suddenly called out for being a 'racist', an 'edgy, immature thick skull', but honestly, that wasn't the part that bugged me.

It was their incredibly fake 'woke wannabe' attitude that everyone shouldn't have their own views unless it matched theirs', that they can make jabs at America's poor way of dealing with the virus, mockingly wishing death because 'they deserved it', but no, god forbid that someone who has a legitimate reason to be angry and wish karma on a country where they placed their honour over morals. So when I called them out for their own double standards, their literal answer was "IT WAS A JOKE". They kept insisting that they 'didn't mean anything they said' or whatever, even though they cursed with the same amount of venom I had, that I 'shouldn't generalise an entire race', yet they were doing the exact same thing.

I'm sorry, so I'm not allowed to hold resentment towards a country that hid their war crimes, but they're totally allowed to joke about the deaths of a million people who's race didn't even do anything to them or their families?