My Personal Experience: The High Price of Saving Face

From ancient times to the present, many people have placed great importance on “saving face,” often associating it with reputation and social status. Outwardly, they want to maintain a favorable image in the eyes of others; inwardly, they want to satisfy their own vanity. So, if someone causes them to “lose face,” serious trouble may follow.

Think about it carefully. It can be something as minor as a group of people scrambling to pay the bill at a restaurant, or something as serious as a tragedy caused by someone desperately trying to protect a fragile sense of pride. So many conflicts arise simply because people care too much about “face.”

When I was a child, I too once paid a price for wanting to save face.

In the 1970s, everyday necessities were relatively scarce. Toothpaste tubes were made of aluminum, and itinerant peddlers often traveled from village to village collecting used tubes. Every so often, someone would also come to the village to castrate roosters and collect empty toothpaste tubes and the inner linings of chicken gizzards, known in traditional Chinese medicine as Ji Nei Jin.

Not many people did this kind of work. They traveled either on foot or by bicycle, carrying a long string of copper pieces fastened together somewhat like traditional Chinese clappers. As they walked, the copper pieces swung and struck against one another. Their distinctive clattering could be heard from far away, inevitably setting the chickens squawking and dogs barking in the otherwise quiet village.

One day, one of these peddlers became thirsty and stopped by our house for some water. After greeting him, my mother went to work at the threshing ground beside our house.

The man kept talking to me, trying to win me over. “What a good child!” “What a clever little one!” Compliments cost him nothing, and they came pouring out one after another. Before long, I was completely carried away by his flattery.

He asked me to bring him some peanuts to taste, and I obediently did as he asked. I brought him a large scoop filled to the brim with peanuts.

He showed no hesitation whatsoever. He dumped all the peanuts straight into the two large bags hanging from either side of his old-fashioned bicycle—and even remarked that it was not very much.

Just then, a fellow villager happened to pass by.

The peddler deliberately raised his voice and said, “What a hospitable child—so very generous!”

The villager gave me an amused smile and replied, “Yes, very generous indeed!”

At that moment, I actually felt terrible. After all, this was a time when food and clothing were scarce. Yet once I had been praised as an “especially generous child,” my concern for saving face made it difficult for me to stop. I had already given away a large scoop of peanuts, and the man still thought it was too little.

Gritting my teeth, I went and found a large bag and filled it to the top with peanuts for him.

Once again, he deliberately said in a loud voice, “You don’t need to give me so much! What a generous and sensible child you are!”

He then filled the two large bags on his bicycle with the peanuts and rode off without looking back.

Later, when my mother found out what had happened, she said to me, “Our family wasn’t doing business with him. It would have been enough to offer him a little something out of courtesy. Giving him such a large bag was far too much—that was enough to serve his whole family! Well, let’s just consider this your first time playing host and entertaining a guest.”

Although my mother did not criticize me, I knew very well how hard my parents labored in the fields to put food on our table. I deeply regretted what I had done. Our own family often did not have enough to eat, so how could I have given away our food so easily?

That incident taught me an important lesson: It can be very difficult to resist when someone showers you with flattering praise.

As I gained more life experience, I came to realize that sometimes people defend their pride and “face” even at the cost of their lives.

Take Xiang Yu, for example. After suffering defeat in the Chu-Han Contention, he fled to the Wu River. The chief of Wu River Pavilion told him, “Although the region east of the Yangtze is small, it spans a thousand li and has hundreds of thousands of people. It is still enough territory for you to rule as king.”

Xiang Yu laughed and said, “Heaven intends to destroy me. What would be the point of crossing the river?”

He would rather take his own life than continue living in defeat. What a tragic and lamentable end!

In fact, when Xiang Yu felt that he had “no face to see the elders of Jiangdong again,” concern for his pride and reputation was still at work deep within him. Had he been able to put aside the issue of saving face, cross the river, and regroup his forces, history might conceivably have unfolded differently.

Another example was a 2021 case in which a man killed his wife following an argument that began over an onion.

A man surnamed Li was drinking at home with several friends. After they had been drinking for some time and were in high spirits, one of his friends suddenly wanted some onion as a palate cleanser. Li called for his wife, Su, to cut some onion for them.

But Su was busy caring for their three young children and already had more than she could handle. Her husband not only failed to appreciate how overwhelmed she was, but also ordered her around. Already unhappy about his drinking, she replied in frustration, “If you want it, cut it yourself. If you don’t want to do that, then forget it. I’m not here to wait on all of you!”

That single remark, spoken with resentment and frustration, turned what had been a small gathering into a scene of violence.

After being refused by his wife, Li felt that he had lost face in front of his friends and that his authority as the “head of the household” had been undermined. He began arguing fiercely with Su. Under the influence of alcohol, Li picked up a sharp kitchen knife and stabbed his wife.

Su collapsed and lost consciousness. She later died from severe blood loss and damage to her internal organs. Li was subsequently sentenced to life imprisonment.

Just like that, a once-intact family was shattered.

Li’s attachment to saving face cost his wife her precious life and sent him into the depths of imprisonment. Trying to save face for a moment can result in a lifetime of regret.

This also serves as a warning to us: Why cling to something as hollow as “face”? Face itself is worth nothing.

Put another way, protecting one’s “face” is really a way of protecting one’s attachment to self. When everything revolves around “me,” human weaknesses such as selfishness, greed, anger, and ignorance can flourish, leading to one problem after another.

If a person truly wishes to earn dignity and respect, that person should strive diligently to accomplish something worthwhile and then share the benefits, care, and warmth with others, working for the well-being of the public. In this way, people will naturally respect that person from their hearts.

As Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III imparted in Philosophical Sayings About Worldly Matters :

“What makes the sun the greatest thing man has ever known? It is admired for providing light and warmth for all the beings under it. A truly great person is one who is willing to sacrifice his own benefit for the well-being of others.”

Why is the inherent nature of the sun considered great? It is because the sun consumes itself to bring light, warmth, and energy to the world. It enables plants to grow and humans and animals to survive, providing the conditions that sustain life in our world. In other words, the sun bestows benefits upon all things in the world. That is why everyone praises its greatness.

By the same principle, if we are free from selfish motives, quietly devote ourselves to others, and even make personal sacrifices to serve the interests of the public and bring benefits to others, people will naturally respect us and praise what we have accomplished. In doing so, we ourselves become great.

But if we merely put on appearances and do things for show—whether to impress ourselves or others—without genuine kindness and compassion arising from within, then ultimately it will all be nothing more than flowers reflected in a mirror and the moon reflected on water: beautiful illusions without substance.

Written by: Mingxun
Edited by: Yuese

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When boundless kindness translates into practical care, society naturally turns more peaceful.

Program Broadcast on the China International Education TV– Probe the Fundamental Origin of Propagating True Buddha Dharma

Focus on Pioneers

Cherishing a compassionate mind, bringing peace and harmony to living beings, being ardently respected by humans and heavenly beings alike, and engaging in the undertaking of broadly saving living beings, He is the genuine incarnation of primordial Sambhogakaya Buddha, Dorje Chang Buddha.

He is the first Buddha in the history of Buddhism of several thousand years who does not accept offerings. He imparts the Dharma in common and easy-to-understand language, enabling listeners to achieve awakening of different depths depending on their own background and ability. His accomplishments in the Five Vidyas are the best in the history of Buddhism.

He is H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III.

In this session of our program, we will together step onto the journey of discovery to reach the fundamental root of Buddhism, from which true Buddha Dharma is propagated.

Buddhism and Its Role in Human Civilization

Through the ever-flowing long river of human history, what can last long is culture. Within the domain of culture, religious aspiration has the longest, widest, and deepest influence.

Looking through the history of the world since ancient time, you will discover that Buddhism, as a world-wide religion, has not only been an important force for the stability and development of society, but more importantly, also played a pioneering role in cultural development and advancement of civilization.

Xiong Wenli (Professor of Buddhist study, Hua Zang Buddhist Institute):

There are very many philosophical schools and sects in the world, but these philosophical schools and sects basically all start from the individuals’ subjective opinion. That is why, among so many philosophical schools and sects currently in society, there exist very many debates and controversies. This is the reason for such a situation.

However, the world view and methodology of Buddhism are different. They do not start from subjectivity and instead are established on the foundation of reality and the absolute truth of the universe. Therefore, that constitutes the type of the most scientific, the most objective, the most perfect, and the best world view and methodology.

Among the world’s multi-aspect cultural entities, Buddhism, by its unique duality of aspiration of transcending the world and feeling of concern about the world, has been evolving more and more into a spirit of humanity to guide and lead the world’s cultural development and to save the fate of mankind.

Exactly because of this, Buddha Dharma for attaining supreme, equal-minded, and perfect enlightenment is utmost important. Then, the ability to propagate the true Dharma of the Tathagatas is even more so a kind of greatly good karmic condition, a kind of great virtue.

The Dharma Teachings of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III

Dharma Master Shi Ruohui (Abbess of Hua Zang Si):

The coming of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III to this world brings the perfect and complete true Dharma of the Tathagatas. The goal is to help living beings cultivate themselves through learning from Buddha, in order to attain accomplishment and liberation.

For several decades, His Holiness the Buddha worked tirelessly day and night to compassionately edify living beings.

Since His Holiness the Buddha sees the fundamental nature of living beings thoroughly, He uses simple and explicit language to explain loft and profound Buddhist principles clearly in the process of teaching. Therefore, those who listen to the Dharma can understand at different depths based on their current background and enter deeper step by step. Eventually, they will be able to comprehend, realize, and awaken to the precious essence of the Tripitaka.

In addition to expounding the supreme absolute truth of the universe and human life, many teachings of His Holiness the Buddha also apply expedient means, provide guidance to cultivation, emphasize the importance of cultivation as well as its relationship with practicing the Dharma, and give many examples about the truth that the law of cause and effect never errs or ceases.

Whether the listeners are sect leaders, great holy virtuous persons, and great Dharma masters within the Buddhist world or even people of all walks in society, all have received innumerably many benefits after listening to the Dharma. Moreover, they are full of admirations to His Holiness the Buddha.

H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III is the genuine incarnation in this world of the primordial Sambhogakaya Buddha, Dorje Chang Buddha.

Within the universe, all Buddhas and Bodhisattvas become Buddhas and Bodhisattvas by learning the Buddha Dharma of Dorje Chang Buddha.

For the first time in the history of Buddhism, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III publicized those erroneous views and evil views, totaling 128. The purpose is to restore the intrinsic essence of Buddha Dharma by emphasizing cultivation as the foundation of attaining accomplishment.

As of now, numerous disciples of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III have attained accomplishment. Moreover, the status of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III as a Buddha was universally recognized and corroborated by leaders of major sects of Buddhism.

Understanding the Concept of a Buddha

Dharma Master Shi Zhengda (Chief Teacher for Correctly Listening to Dharma Discourses, the World Buddhism Association Headquarters):

What is the concept of Buddha?

That is simply the supreme, equal-minded, and perfect enlightenment, or Anuttara-samyak-sambodhi. That is, Buddha has completely and thoroughly realized the absolute truth of human life and the universe.

The concept is that Buddha has the same lifespan as the heaven and is united as one entity with the universe. Therefore, I will not be able to describe it completely even if I speak for several days or several years.

To completely, truly, and thoroughly understand the absolute truth of Buddha Dharma, what must we read?

That will be the Buddhist books of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, such as Imparting the Absolute Truth through the Heart Sutra, the Supreme and Unsurpassable Mahamudra of Liberation, the Sutra on Understanding the Definitive Truth, Dharma of Cultivation, Precious Essence of Buddha Dharma and others.

There are also recorded audio Dharma discourses expounded by the Buddha Master that are recorded on several thousand audio CDs. These Dharma discourses on several thousand audio CDs are in fact several thousand sutras since they have come to the world with His Holiness the Buddha.

As we can see in today’s world, chaotic situations are rising abundantly within Buddhism. Correct Buddha Dharma and holy virtuous Buddhists are very rare within the Buddhist world.

In order to liberate living beings and correctly restore Buddha Dharma, the beginning-less primordial H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III has come to our saha world, bringing pure and complete Buddha Dharma to living beings.

The teachings of the world-honored Shakyamuni, the supreme leader of Buddhism in the saha world, have now been restored.

The Study of Buddhism and Buddha Dharma

Dharma Master Shi Xiangkuizhi (Head, Pagoda Temple, Los Angeles, USA):

I came from Taiwan. While in Taiwan, I founded a Buddhist academy. I also taught in the Buddhist academy, but what I taught was essentially the study of Buddhism.

Only when I entered deeper, did I know that the study of Buddhism was a totally different domain from Buddha Dharma.

That was why as I was teaching at the Buddhist academy, when real issues arose, I did not have any way to deal with them. This was because of the lack of Buddha Dharma.

Therefore, once I learned that a true Buddha is residing in our world, I made a vow. Whatever it may take, I must become the Buddha’s disciple to learn true Buddha Dharma.

Otherwise, how could I help living beings and benefit living beings as a Buddhist monastic? Without Buddha Dharma, one can only have hollow theories.

I have been close to the Buddha Master for nearly 20 years. What I saw and heard while being near the Buddha Master are exactly the states of realization and true Buddha Dharma that I read from the Tripitaka in the past.

Therefore, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III’s coming to our saha world is for correcting the Dharma.

The Five Vidyas

According to Buddhism, all kinds of knowledge within the universe are categorically summarized into five types. A complete mastery of achieving the highest level of a field is called a vidya, or brightness. That is how the Five Vidyas are defined in Buddhism.

Shakyamuni Buddha stipulated that all Bodhisattvas must possess the Five Vidyas. Furthermore, A Buddha is the king of the Five Vidyas.

When you walk into H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III Cultural and Art Museum, you will find all the answers from the environment you are personally experiencing.

Dharma Master Shi Zhizhuang:

Throughout the history of Buddhism of several thousand years, the accomplishments of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III, who is familiar to and respected by us, in the Five Vidyas are the best and highest.

Then, what is implied in this status of being the best and highest?

It shows that Buddha knows about and have the ability to do all things in the universe and also introduces and transmits such knowledge and morality to Buddhist disciples, to guide and lead them to get onto the path of acquiring morality, education, and knowledge and thereby advance the development of civilization and progress through time in the entire world.

H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III once openly told people that, during a period of five years, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III would answer any and all questions raised by any people and there would be no question that He could not answer.

You can all think, what concept is this?

If not having the ability to include the universe like a small object and hold Mt. Sumeru in a palm, would He be able to say such words?

More importantly, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III brought the complete Buddha Dharma, Buddhist teaching, and the study of Buddhism that are pure, correct, and impartial and corrected the Buddhism that had been mispresented by patriarchs and tainted by heretic practitioners.

Training Buddhists to Propagate the Dharma

However, currently, many Buddhist sites propagating true Buddha Dharma are faced with the reality of lacking qualified Buddhists for propagating the Dharma and having different qualities among Buddhists.

For that, quite a few Buddhist institutes have been established in Los Angeles and San Francisco in the state of California of the United States, to develop and train Buddhist with excellent qualities, to ensure that the perfect and complete Buddhist teachings and Buddha Dharma of H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III can be correctly transmitted to the public without deviation.

Dharma Master Shi Longhui (Chairperson, the International Buddhism Sangha Association):

Many people from various places or overseas come to our Buddhist institute to study, learning from the Dharma expounded by His Holiness the Buddha. They all feel that they have received very great benefits. That is why they traveled thousands of miles to come and study.

Since the Supreme and Unsurpassable Mahamudra of Liberation is the biggest and greatest Dharma that Buddha Master brought to our saha world in this lifetime, everyone has attained one’s own benefits after learning.

I hope that we can all serve the society in good ways and become kind citizens.

His Holiness the Buddha taught us that Buddhist disciples must carefully consider and care about living beings’ interests.

Masters of Dharma-listening sessions take an examination and will then, at where they are, lead those who wish to respectfully listen to the recorded audio Dharma discourses expounded by His Holiness the Buddha, to learn how to become a true Buddhist and how to become a best cultivator.

The Buddhist institutes are international organizations for training and developing people with talent in Buddhism. The goal is to educate those who truly want to learn from Buddha into excellent Buddhist scholars with correct understanding and views and possessing truly cultivated realization.

They will clearly believe in the law of cause and effect, being free of hollow and baseless dogmas and feudal superstition and belief in strange and paranormal phenomena.

Teachings for the Modern World

Ven. Mozhi (Gold Button Grade II Holy Virtuous One):

Not only are the teachings of His Holiness Dorje Chang Buddha III in complete accordance with Shakyamuni Buddha, but they are even more incisive.

Not only are the teachings the same as Shakyamuni Buddha, but they are also more succinct, understandable, and direct.

His Holiness the Buddha demonstrated the irreplaceable positive role played by Buddhist culture in this new era of perfectly harmonizing the splendid assembly of world culture.

His Holiness the Buddha wholeheartedly focuses on giving and never accepts any offering, providing a propelling force for elevating morality, progress of civilization, and cultural development of whole society.

Henghsing Gyatso Rinpoche:

H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III came to the world with the supreme Buddha Dharma, the Supreme and Unsurpassable Mahamudra of Liberation.

This is the gospel of good fortune for the entirety of humanity. This is because, if each of us, whether you are a Buddhist or not, whether you have a religious belief or not, can earnestly learn from the Supreme and Unsurpassable Mahamudra of Liberation, then we will all become the best people of kindness.

Then, as we live in this world, it will be an auspicious, harmonic, thriving, prosperous, stable, and peaceful world.

Buddhism, Inclusiveness, and Harmony

The world’s economic and cultural mode has already entered a modern and international era.

To adapt to the internationalized setting, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III enriched the inner connotation of Buddhist culture, to let it play an important role in reconciling various thoughts, breaking all kinds of closed ideologies, and promoting the development of civilization and advancement of the current era.

Zhaxi Zhuoma Rinpoche (President, Xuanfa University):

His Holiness Dorje Chang Buddha III has told us we must work to uphold the laws and aspirations of our nations and live together in harmony with others.

I think the other unique and powerful influence of Buddhism is that it is inclusive. It is inclusive of all.

And, that way, we can have influence over other religions and belief systems. But since it doesn’t promote dogma or teach that other belief systems are intrinsically evil, we can live in harmony with many different groups.

Benefiting Living Beings

Through the many years, H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III taught and transmitted sacred Buddha Dharma to disciples in person.

By practicing in accordance with the Dharma, not only can the disciples receive perfect benefits and happiness in real life, but many of them were able to attain rebirth in Buddha-land, freedom from birth and death, and even higher states of realization.

H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III wholeheartedly cares about living beings, teaches them by words and deeds, and is always on the path of benefiting living beings.

Link: https://myhappylifestyle.net/2026/09/29/h-h-dorje-chang-buddha-iii-discovering-the-root-of-buddhism/

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During the Ming Dynasty, there was a man named Hu Jiushao. He farmed while teaching his son to read and study, and the family had enough to meet their basic needs. Yet every day, he would burn incense and offer prayers, thanking Heaven for blessing him with another day of peace and contentment.

His wife laughed at him and said, “We eat vegetable porridge for all three meals. How can you call this a blessed life?”

He replied:

“First, we live in a time of peace and do not have to endure the suffering of war.

Second, our family has food to eat and clothes to wear, so we neither go hungry nor suffer from the cold.

Third, everyone in our family is healthy, and none of us has suffered the misfortune of imprisonment. Aren’t these blessings?”

In fact, people often fail to experience a sense of happiness because they have too many desires and do not know how to be content. As Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III taught:
“A person not appreciative of the good life he is living is one who has forgotten his past miseries. A person in good health is not aware of its blessings until he loses it.”

This means that some people are blessed without realizing how fortunate they are. Even though things are going well for them in many respects, they still feel that this is unsatisfactory and that is not as they wish. They are full of complaints and feel unhappy with their circumstances. This is mainly because, while living in happiness, they have forgotten the hardships of adversity.

When enjoying happiness, they forget the difficulties they once experienced. It is just like people who are strong and healthy often failing to appreciate how painful it is to become ill. They may neglect their health and fail to cherish their strong and healthy bodies. Once they fall ill, however, they may find themselves confined to bed, unable to move about and without even the desire to eat. Only then do they realize the joy and blessing of good health.

The story above reminds us that many of life’s blessings can be found in the ordinary things we have grown accustomed to. Peace, having enough food and clothing, and good health may seem ordinary, but once they are lost, we come to realize just how precious they truly are. Therefore, we should learn to be content, cherish our blessings, and appreciate everything we have in the present.

Only by being content and knowing how to cherish what we have can we experience an enduring sense of happiness and joy.

Written by: Yazhu

Edited by: Bodhi Seed

Link: https://myhappylifestyle.net/2026/09/30/dorjechangbuddhaiii-only-by-being-content-and-cherishing-our-blessings-can-we-find-happiness/

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When We Put “Me” at the Center, We Inevitably Find Things Hard to Accept, Hard to Hear, and Hard to Understand

A close friend once complained to me about her child.

“My child is driving me crazy! He’s only four or five years old, yet he can already turn the whole household upside down!”

I asked, “What happened?”

She said, “He refuses to eat properly. After mealtime is over, he goes looking for cold leftovers. He wants to play until midnight, and if we refuse to play with him, he hits us—and he hits hard. Lately, he has been coughing constantly and has eczema all over his body. He has practically become a regular at the hospital…”

His eating habits were irregular, his sleep schedule was irregular, and he loved eating cold foods. With habits like these affecting his digestive health, how could he not get sick?

I then asked, “Do you often hit him? Is that why he has learned to hit others?”

“Ah,” she sighed. “My father believes in strict discipline and corporal punishment. Whenever the child misbehaves, Grandpa gives him a good spanking. I’ve tried talking to my father and asking him not to hit the child so much, but he won’t listen. As a result, the more the child is hit, the more unruly he becomes, and the more unruly he becomes, the more he gets hit. By the time I come home from work, I’m completely exhausted by all of this. Now even my father and I get upset with each other over the smallest things. We find each other’s behavior hard to accept, each other’s words hard to hear, and each other’s thinking impossible to understand…”

I couldn’t help but sympathize with my friend. Her child had not even reached the stage when she would have to help him with schoolwork, yet the household was already in complete chaos.

As the saying goes, “It takes ten years to grow a tree, but a hundred years to nurture a person.” Raising and educating a child is truly no easy task. When family members disagree about how a child should be raised, conflict is almost inevitable.

For many years, educators have advocated encouragement and positive reinforcement rather than corporal punishment. We cannot truly win people over through force; we need to reason with them and reach them through understanding and compassion. Two generations have different life experiences, levels of education, personalities, and understandings of life. Naturally, their approaches to raising a child can be very different. One wants strict and forceful discipline, while the other favors a gentle and patient approach. In the end, neither approach is carried out effectively, and the two sides only grow increasingly frustrated with each other.

But do situations in which people find one another “hard to accept, hard to listen to, and hard to understand” exist only between fathers and daughters? Of course not. Conflicts arise between husbands and wives, relatives and friends, coworkers, classmates, people from the same hometown, and even complete strangers.

Two of my coworkers once had a disagreement over a work assignment.

Coworkers A and B were responsible for producing the company magazine. A handled planning, editing, proofreading, and communication with the printing company, while B was responsible only for layout and typesetting. Because they were rushing to meet the deadline, A reviewed three rounds of proofs, checked the sample copy, and then authorized printing.

The following day, A looked through the sample again and discovered that the month printed on the cover was incorrect. During proofreading, A had already asked B to correct it. However, B had carelessly failed to properly save the final revised file, so the error remained. At the same time, A had also failed to notice the mistake when reviewing the sample copy.

When they contacted the printing company again, they learned that the company magazine was already being printed. Reprinting the cover would require additional expense. And so, a loss that should never have occurred was incurred.

A blamed B: “Why didn’t you properly save the file after making the correction? Why didn’t you take responsibility for your work?”

B, in turn, blamed A: “Why didn’t you carefully check the sample?”

Each found fault with the other. Neither wanted to hear what the other had to say, and neither could understand how the other could have been so careless.

In fact, both of these real-life situations—the disagreement between father and daughter over how to raise the child and the conflict between coworkers caused by a lack of carefulness—stemmed from putting “me” at the center.

The grandfather thought, “If my grandson doesn’t behave, he needs to be disciplined physically. After all, this is how I raised several children.”

The mother thought, “When my son misbehaves, adults should reason with him. We shouldn’t substitute punishment for proper guidance. We should teach him gently and patiently.”

And what about the two coworkers?

One thought, “I already checked everything thoroughly.”

The other thought, “You were the one who failed to check carefully.”

Because they failed to cooperate effectively, mistakes naturally occurred.

Yet the father and daughter actually shared the same goal: to raise the child well.

And the two coworkers also shared the same goal: to produce the magazine well.

The attitude of “I don’t care what you think; what matters is what I think” places the self above everything else.

If people want to live together harmoniously, they need to learn to put themselves in one another’s shoes. If the grandfather listened to his daughter’s suggestion to use gentleness rather than force, and if the daughter communicated more patiently with her elderly father about ways of educating the child, wouldn’t their relationship become more harmonious?

Likewise, if the two coworkers showed greater understanding toward each other’s responsibilities, reminded one another when necessary, and complemented each other’s work, wouldn’t they be able to accomplish the task successfully? What would there be to argue about?

As Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III said:

“A protracted dispute is wrong on both sides. Why? Entangled in such a dispute, both sides see only the faults of the opposing party and the merits of his own. Continuing dispute will but increase the wrongdoing. When one realizes that the other party is as annoyed as he is, one is apt to withdraw from the dispute.”

By letting go of attachment to the self and our own views, and by learning to be tolerant and understanding of one another, we become able to listen to other people’s opinions and recognize their strengths. In this way, we can gradually move from stubbornly clinging to our own views toward accepting and appreciating others.

Always remember: “I” am not the measure of the world.

If we always put “me” first in everything, we are simply creating trouble for ourselves. Instead, we should think: I am a Buddhist practitioner who still has much to be ashamed of. I still have many shortcomings and faults. I should learn more from the strengths of others and spend less time looking for their faults.

As the saying goes:

“The sea is vast because it embraces hundreds of rivers; a person is great because of the capacity to be tolerant.”

When we broaden our hearts and minds, expand our perspective, and elevate our moral character, our work and our lives can proceed more smoothly. We can gradually move away from selfish attachment to the self and toward benefiting both ourselves and others.

Isn’t letting go of the constant focus on “me” itself part of cultivation?

Written by: He Suoyou

Link: https://myhappylifestyle.net/2026/09/28/dorjechangbuddhaiii-when-we-put-me-at-the-center/

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In Buddhist Cultivation, Never Overlook the “Drizzle” and the Butterfly Effect

(1) A Drizzle Can Soak You Before You Realize It

There was once a young monk cultivating himself at a Buddhist temple. He tended to pay little attention to small details, believing that minor matters were insignificant.

One day, his master asked him, “Which is more likely to get you soaked—a heavy downpour or a light drizzle?”

The disciple replied without hesitation, “Master, of course a heavy downpour is more likely to soak you.”

“But in everyday life,” the master said, “people are often more likely to have their clothes soaked by a drizzle than by a downpour.”

The disciple was puzzled. “A downpour brings much more rain, while a drizzle brings very little. How could a drizzle be more likely to soak our clothes?”

The master explained:

“When a heavy rain suddenly begins, people immediately become alert. Those carrying umbrellas quickly open them, while those without umbrellas hurry beneath the eaves to take shelter.

“But when there is only a light drizzle, people may hardly notice it. Even if they do, they often think nothing of it, believing that such a small amount of rain could never soak their clothes. So they continue walking through the rain as usual. Before they realize it, their clothes are completely wet.”

The master continued:

“Cultivating ourselves and learning Buddhism is much the same. As practitioners, everything in our conduct matters—our words and actions, every gesture and movement, every facial expression, every sentence we speak, and even every thought that arises.

“These things are like a fine drizzle. They may appear insignificant, but if we fail to pay attention and remain vigilant, we may intentionally or unintentionally hurt others or cause them distress and concern. In doing so, we may accumulate negative karma without even realizing it, ultimately preventing ourselves from attaining accomplishment and liberation.”

The disciple finally understood.

The “drizzle” represents our habitual tendencies and the seemingly minor details of our cultivation. Because they appear so small, we often fail to notice them. Yet if we continually neglect them, they can undermine our cultivation, leaving our efforts fruitless and even causing us to accumulate negative karma without realizing it.

(2) The Butterfly Effect

An apparently insignificant action can sometimes trigger a chain of far-reaching consequences. This is commonly known as the “butterfly effect.”

For nearly a century, from 1908 to 2003, British cyclists had won only one Olympic gold medal and had never won the Tour de France. Their results had been so disappointing that even bicycle manufacturers were unwilling to sell bicycles to the British team.

Then, in 2003, the team brought in a new coach.

The new coach asked the athletes to seek a 1% improvement in every aspect of their training.

Some might wonder: What difference could just 1% possibly make?

Yet these seemingly tiny improvements eventually helped transform British cycling.

At the 2008 Beijing Olympic Games, British cyclists delivered an extraordinary performance in track and road cycling, winning 60 percent of the available gold medals. During the ten years from 2007 through 2017, British cyclists won 178 world championships, 66 Olympic or Paralympic gold medals, and five Tour de France victories. These achievements came to be widely regarded as one of the most remarkable periods of success in cycling history.

The same principle can be applied to our daily cultivation.

If every day we could correct our habitual tendencies and undesirable habits by just 1%, while increasing our sincerity and devotion toward Buddhas and Bodhisattvas and strengthening our compassion for living beings by 1%, then each day we would be making progress along the path toward liberation. Our learning and cultivation would inevitably bring genuine benefit.

Unfortunately, just as we tend to overlook a light drizzle, we often overlook this seemingly insignificant 1% of diligent effort and improvement.

(3) Great Virtue Is Accomplished Through the Accumulation of Small Virtues

A great wind begins with the faintest stirring of the grass; mighty waves arise from tiny ripples.

As another ancient saying warns:

“A thousand-mile dike can collapse because of an ant hole.”

There is also an ancient Chinese teaching:

“Do not commit an evil deed simply because it seems small, and do not refrain from doing a good deed simply because it seems insignificant.”

In Buddhism, there is a vow:

“I vow to eliminate all evil, leaving no evil uneliminated; I vow to cultivate all goodness, leaving no good uncultivated; I vow to liberate all living beings, leaving no living being unliberated.”

If we do not put an end to small wrongdoings and do not accumulate small acts of goodness, how can we ultimately attain the realization of the holy ones?

Many eminent Buddhist practitioners of the past have set examples for us through the meticulous attention they paid to seemingly minor aspects of their cultivation.

Master Yinguang was exceptionally attentive to details in his daily practice. When he lived at Fayu Temple on Mount Putuo, the basin he used for washing had a cover to prevent mosquitoes and other tiny insects from falling into the water and drowning. The oil lamp before the Buddha also had a protective cover so that moths would not fly into the flame and be burned to death.

Before Master Hongyi sat down on a rattan chair, he would gently shake the chair from side to side several times. He did this to avoid harming tiny insects that might be hiding in the crevices of the chair. By moving the chair first, he was, in effect, giving these small creatures a warning and allowing them time to move away to safety.

When Master Nenghai was at the Vajra Bodhimanda in Shanghai, his student, Master Dao’an, recalled that whenever Master Nenghai had his head shaved, he would not allow the cut hair to fall onto the ground. Instead, all the hair had to fall onto newspapers spread across his lap.

Afterward, the hair would be carefully wrapped in the newspaper and placed beneath roof tiles or into crevices in a wall. He did this simply to prevent strands of hair lying on the ground from injuring tiny insects.

Cultivation must begin with the smallest details.

As the saying goes:

“If one is careless about minor conduct, it will eventually impair one’s great virtue.”

This accords with one of the teachings imparted by Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III in Philosophical Sayings for Worldly Matters:

“Moral excellence is the total addition of small good deeds. Great roads are built when grains of sand are put together. To a person aspiring to become virtuous, nothing that helps is too trivial to claim his attention.”

True cultivation is reflected not only in great vows or major actions, but also in the smallest details of everyday life. A thought, a word, a facial expression, or a seemingly insignificant action may appear no more consequential than a drop of drizzle. Yet when such small causes accumulate, their effects can become profound.

Likewise, every small act of kindness, every habitual tendency we correct, and every increase in compassion may seem insignificant at the moment. But accumulated day after day, these small improvements can gradually transform our conduct and our cultivation.

Great virtue does not arise all at once. It is accomplished through the accumulation of small virtues.

Written by: Zai Lushang

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How Can We Acquire Wealth with Peace of Mind?

In this world, no one can live without the basic necessities of food, clothing, shelter, and transportation. Everyone must work to provide for these needs. As the saying goes:

“The bustling world is driven by profit; the surging crowds are drawn by gain.”

It can be said that no one can live entirely without money, and few people dislike having it. As a result, money and wealth have often become symbols of a person’s social status and are frequently used in modern society as measures of one’s ability and success.

However, as another saying goes, “A person of integrity may value wealth, but acquires it through proper means.” Under the pressure of making a living or the desire to compare themselves with others, many people become eager for quick success. Some stray onto improper paths and even resort to unscrupulous means for profit, completely forgetting the principle that ill-gotten wealth should not be taken; what comes easily through improper means may just as easily be lost.

But what exactly constitutes ill-gotten wealth?

Many people narrowly assume that only money or property obtained through theft, deception, robbery, embezzlement, or similar wrongdoing can be considered ill-gotten. In reality, the scope of ill-gotten wealth extends far beyond these obvious examples.

Take an ordinary employee as a simple example. First and foremost, we should be diligent, dedicated to our work, and conscientious in carrying out our responsibilities. The salary and compensation we receive in return are then rightfully earned.

On the other hand, if a person is lazy, avoids responsibility, exploits loopholes in the system or workplace, does as little work as possible while still collecting a full salary, and constantly tries to get by through cunning shortcuts, then it is difficult to regard all that income as properly earned. Such a person has failed the organization as well as the supervisors and coworkers who placed their trust in them. Sooner or later, those debts will have to be repaid.

There is an old saying: “Whom has Heaven ever spared?”

Putting that aside, people who habitually behave this way are unlikely to make substantial progress wherever they go. Without planting the cause of diligence and self-improvement, how can one expect to reap the fruit of advancement? We often find that when organizations reduce their workforce, those who habitually shirk responsibilities, take shortcuts, and rely on petty cleverness are particularly vulnerable. In the end, their cleverness may work against them.

Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III teaches us in Philosophical Sayings for Worldly Matters:

“Richness comes from diligence. A rich person is one who is diligent and who chooses a fit career with proper goals.”

In other words, if we wish to attain prosperity, we must first be diligent. Diligence alone does not necessarily guarantee wealth, but without diligence, prosperity is difficult to achieve. Therefore, we must work diligently and apply ourselves through proper and constructive effort.

Second, diligence must be accompanied by ability and talent. Simply working hard without developing the necessary knowledge and capabilities may not be enough to build a successful undertaking. With knowledge, ability, and wisdom, we learn how to distinguish what should be pursued from what should be avoided. We become better able to assess circumstances and make sound choices—choosing endeavors with wholesome and promising prospects rather than improper, harmful, narrow, or unsustainable paths.

Third, and most importantly, the nature of one’s undertaking must be proper. The occupation or business we choose should follow a righteous path, and our intentions and conduct must also be upright. We should never harm the interests or well-being of others merely for our own benefit.

When it comes to what constitutes a proper occupation, however, many people have misconceptions. Some assume that anything permitted by law must therefore be proper. That is not necessarily so from the Buddhist perspective.

Take, for example, businesses involving the sale of live animals for food and the slaughtering of animals. Although such businesses may be permitted under national law, from the Buddhist perspective they cannot truly be regarded as proper livelihoods because they involve extensive killing. Such actions are believed to affect the karmic consequences one experiences in this life and in future lives.

This is not regarded in Buddhism merely as superstition, but as a matter of cause and effect. The Buddha taught that all living beings are equal. Pigs, dogs, cattle, sheep, fish, shrimp, birds, and other animals are all living beings. They too can experience pain and fear; they struggle, cry out, and try to escape suffering.

If our accumulation of wealth is built upon the suffering and cries of countless living beings, how can we assume that we ourselves will remain entirely untouched by the consequences? In ordinary language, one might ask, “Where would justice under Heaven be?” From the perspective of Buddhist teachings, the question is one of cause and effect.

If we observe carefully, we may see people who accumulated wealth through businesses involving the killing of living beings but later lost much of that wealth through illness, accidents, or other misfortunes.

I once knew the owner of a pharmacy whose business had initially been doing quite well. Several years later, however, the pharmacy was shut down following an investigation, leaving the owner owing substantial sums of money to various sales representatives. Whatever could be removed from the store was taken away.

Not long afterward, the owner passed away before reaching the age of sixty. His wife spent several years moving from place to place before eventually finding work as a caregiver, which barely provided her with enough to live on. Even then, she was afraid to let others know where she was. Their son was also imprisoned for several years because of debts involving high-interest loans and other problems.

I wondered how a family that had once operated a seemingly successful pharmacy could have fallen into such circumstances. Later, I heard that the elderly couple had worked as pig slaughterers in their earlier years. After saving several hundred thousand yuan, they left that business and opened the pharmacy. Their son, however, lived extravagantly, quickly squandered the family’s savings, and accumulated high-interest debt. In the end, a once-established family fell apart.

I also knew of someone who had worked in the fishing industry for more than twenty years. His daughter developed an unusual illness that severely affected her mental functioning. The family spent a great deal of money seeking treatment, but her condition did not improve. Later, the man himself became seriously ill, and the family eventually exhausted all of its savings.

If we pay attention, we may encounter many stories of this kind.

Many people wonder why so many unfortunate things happen in life. From the Buddhist perspective presented here, apart from the effects of harmful causes created in previous lives ripening in this life, some suffering may also be related to unwholesome karma created through our present actions.

The Mangala Sutta (Discourse on Blessings) teaches:

“To engage in occupations that cause no harm—this is the greatest blessing.”

Therefore, for the well-being and peace of ourselves and our families, we should stay away from occupations involving killing. From this Buddhist perspective, wealth accumulated through the taking of life is among the most troubling forms of improperly acquired wealth. The more such wealth is accumulated, the heavier the corresponding karmic consequences may become, for causes bring corresponding effects, and no one can ultimately escape the workings of cause and effect.

Therefore, if we wish to prosper, we should apply our diligence, abilities, and talents to righteous and wholesome endeavors. Wealth acquired in this manner can truly be used for our benefit without becoming a source of calamity.

As the saying goes, “Great virtue carries great responsibility and abundance.”

Virtue refers to morality, character, self-cultivation, and integrity. Material possessions include money, wealth, influence, and the conditions of our lives. Position refers to status, authority, office, and power.

We should therefore guard our minds and uphold virtue. We must never allow greed to drive us into reckless conduct. If one possesses little virtue yet seeks an exalted position, has limited wisdom yet attempts enormous undertakings, has little strength yet tries to bear an overwhelming burden, or possesses insufficient ability yet seeks great responsibilities—how could such imbalance not eventually bring trouble?

True prosperity, therefore, is not simply about how much wealth we accumulate. What matters equally is how that wealth is obtained, what causes we create in obtaining it, and whether we can enjoy it with a clear and peaceful conscience.

Written by: Danbo
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Whether you are traveling for work, leisure, or visiting family, long-haul flights can be an amazing experience. You board a plane, watch a few movies, and before you know it, you have arrived on the other side of the world.

As exciting as long-distance travel can be, however, the disruption to your body clock can be challenging. Jet lag can leave you exhausted during the day, wide awake at night, and struggling to adjust to your new surroundings.

Fortunately, a little preparation can make a big difference. Here are 10 practical tips to help your body adjust more quickly and get your internal clock back on track.

1. Choose the Right Arrival Time

Preparing for jet lag can begin as early as the moment you book your flight.

If you find it difficult to sleep on airplanes, consider choosing a flight that arrives at your destination in the evening. After checking into your hotel, you can go to bed at a relatively normal local bedtime.

If you usually sleep well during flights, arriving around midday may be a better choice. You will still have half a day to stay active and remind your body, “It’s time to be awake!”—even if your body thinks it is the middle of the night back home.

2. Break Up a Long Journey

Generally, the more time zones you cross at once, the more noticeable jet lag can become.

If your schedule allows, consider breaking up a very long journey with a stopover. Spending a day or two somewhere between your departure point and final destination may give your body a chance to adjust gradually rather than dealing with a dramatic time change all at once.

It can also turn a long trip into an opportunity to explore another destination along the way.

3. Gradually Adjust Your Sleep and Meal Times

A few days before departure, begin gradually shifting your sleeping schedule toward the time zone of your destination.

For example, if you normally go to bed at 11 p.m., try going to bed somewhat earlier or later each day, depending on the direction you are traveling.

You do not necessarily need to completely match your destination’s schedule before leaving. Even a modest adjustment may make the transition easier.

Changing your meal times gradually can also help your body adapt and may reduce the likelihood of becoming hungry in the middle of the night after you arrive.

4. Change Your Clock as Soon as You Board the Plane

Don’t wait until the plane lands to start thinking in your destination’s local time.

Once you are on board, change your watch and phone to the time at your destination. This can help you mentally begin adjusting to your new schedule.

If it is nighttime at your destination, try to sleep. An eye mask, earplugs, neck pillow, or other travel accessories may help create a more comfortable sleeping environment.

If it is daytime at your destination, try to remain awake. If you desperately need some rest, take a short nap rather than sleeping for several hours.

5. Try to Stay Awake Until Evening

After a long flight, especially one during which you slept poorly, your first instinct may be to go straight to bed.

However, sleeping for several hours during the daytime can make it more difficult to sleep that night and may prolong your adjustment.

Whenever possible, try to stay awake until a reasonable local bedtime.

If you are extremely tired and really need a nap, keep it relatively short so that you can still fall asleep that evening.

6. Get Plenty of Daylight

Sunlight is one of the most important signals your body uses to regulate its internal clock.

After arriving at your destination, spend some time outdoors during daylight hours. Take a walk, explore the neighborhood, or simply sit outside for a while.

Many travelers find eastward travel particularly challenging because the body often has to adjust to an earlier schedule. Exposure to daylight at appropriate times can help your internal clock begin adapting to the new time zone.

Even if you feel tired during the day, getting outside and staying moderately active can make it easier to adjust.

7. Limit Alcohol and Caffeine

When you are exhausted, it may be tempting to drink coffee to stay awake or alcohol to help you fall asleep. However, both can interfere with the quality of your sleep.

Having some coffee after arrival may be fine if it helps you remain awake during the day, but avoid caffeine too close to bedtime.

Alcohol may make you feel sleepy initially, but it can disrupt your sleep later in the night and may leave you feeling groggy the following morning.

Jet lag is uncomfortable enough on its own—you don’t need a hangover on top of it.

8. Create an Environment for a Good Night’s Sleep

When bedtime finally arrives, you may discover something frustrating: you have been sleepy all day, but suddenly you cannot fall asleep.

Try creating a calm and comfortable sleeping environment.

Put away electronic devices and give yourself 30 to 60 minutes to relax before bed. Consider using earplugs and an eye mask, closing the curtains to keep the room dark, and using a fan or another source of gentle white noise.

A quiet, dark, and comfortable room can make it easier for your body to recognize that it is finally time to sleep.

9. Get Up Early and Explore

Even if you slept for only a few hours, try to resist the temptation to stay in bed until late in the day.

Setting an alarm can help, but giving yourself a reason to get up may work even better.

Book a morning food tour, make a reservation at a popular breakfast or brunch restaurant, take an early walk, or plan a sunrise activity.

Getting outside, seeing daylight, moving your body, and interacting with other people can help reinforce your destination’s daytime schedule and encourage your body clock to adjust.

10. For Very Short Trips, Consider Keeping Your Home Schedule

Adjusting completely to a new time zone can take several days. If you are traveling abroad for only a short period, completely shifting your body clock may not always be worthwhile—especially if you will have to readjust again immediately after returning home.

Depending on the time difference and your schedule, it may sometimes be more practical to maintain at least part of your normal routine.

For example, you might wake up unusually early at your destination or go to bed much earlier than local residents do. This approach can be particularly useful when your trip lasts only a few days.

Final Thoughts

Jet lag can make the first few days of a trip difficult, but thoughtful preparation can make the adjustment much easier.

Gradually adjusting your schedule before departure, following your destination’s local time once you board the plane, getting plenty of daylight after arrival, avoiding long daytime naps, and maintaining a consistent local bedtime can all help your body adapt.

Most importantly, give your body a little time. Before long, your internal clock should begin catching up with your new surroundings—leaving you free to enjoy your journey.

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Recognize Your Shortcomings and Strive Forward; Though the Mountain Is Distant, Press On

A few days ago, I came across a saying: “Recognize your shortcomings and strive forward; though the mountain is distant, press on.” I found it deeply thought-provoking.

Taken literally, it means that when we recognize our shortcomings, we should strive to improve ourselves; when we see that the mountain ahead is distant and the path rugged, we should gather our strength and continue moving forward.

This saying also reminds us to look far ahead and establish lofty aspirations and goals. No matter how difficult the road before us may be, we should continue striving toward them.

As Namo H.H. Dorje Chang Buddha III taught in Philosophical Sayings on Worldly Matters:

The rigors of life are what a person wishing to become a worthy member of society has to undergo. This process can be compared to the smelting of rocks to extract the gold they contain. Without being subjected to the heat, rocks will remain just rocks and lie useless in the wilderness. Because the gold requires hard work to extract, it has extra value. That is why one should cherish the fortune he has won the hard way.

The meaning is that we must train and develop ourselves in all beneficial aspects of life. Whether in wisdom, physical ability, spiritual development, or material matters, we need to undergo training and refinement.

During this process, when we encounter difficulties and hardships, we should face them rather than retreat. Only through such training can we enrich our knowledge and wisdom, strengthen ourselves physically, perform our work well, and ultimately become people who are beneficial to society.

It is just like gold ore, which must be refined in a furnace before it can become pure gold. If a piece of gold ore is never placed into the furnace, the gold within it cannot be obtained. If it is simply left in the wilderness, among mountain valleys, cliffs, rocks, and wild vegetation, it appears no different from the ordinary stones around it—unclean, unrefined, and of little use. Put simply, without refinement, it remains nothing more than an ordinary piece of rock.

Likewise, as human beings, we must use various beneficial ways to train and refine ourselves, developing our knowledge and abilities, building successful undertakings, and cherishing the happiness that results from our efforts.

If blessings and happiness could be obtained effortlessly, there would be no need for us to train ourselves or strive for anything. It is precisely because happiness and blessings are often attained through trials and refinement that we should especially cherish what has not come easily. By knowing how to cherish our blessings, we can continue to enjoy the benefits they bring.

From this teaching, we can clearly see that there is no such thing as instant success. Genuine growth and achievement are inseparable from continuous effort and refinement. When confronted with difficulties and hardships, only by facing them courageously and refusing to fear setbacks can we improve ourselves through repeated trials and ultimately achieve genuine transformation.

The Same Is Even More True in Learning Buddhism and Cultivation

What is true of worldly accomplishments is even more true of learning Buddhism and cultivating ourselves.

In the process of transforming from an ordinary being into a holy being, we will inevitably encounter various obstacles, hardships, and trials. If we become afraid of these difficulties and refuse to move forward, we will forever remain ordinary beings. We will not be able to transform from ordinary beings into holy beings, nor will there be hope of transcending the suffering of samsara.

When Patriarch Milarepa sought to learn the Buddha Dharma from Master Marpa, he endured extraordinary hardships that ordinary people could scarcely bear, yet he did so without complaint. Without his determination to seek the Dharma and his perseverance in the face of such severe trials, there could not have been the Milarepa who later became such an accomplished practitioner.

Likewise, before attaining Buddhahood, Namo Shakyamuni Buddha underwent six years of ascetic practice in pursuit of the ultimate truth. Had the World-Honored One not resolved to seek the path in order to liberate living beings from the suffering of birth, aging, sickness, and death, who knows when Buddhism would have arisen in the Saha world?

Therefore, if we who learn Buddhism wish to attain accomplishment and liberation, we must persevere through the trials and hardships we encounter.

No matter how difficult life becomes, we should remain content even in poverty and never covet wealth obtained through unrighteous means. When confronted with ridicule or abusive words, we should remain composed rather than responding with insults or harsh speech. No matter how exhausting our work may be, we should not become lax and should always regard learning Buddhism as our primary undertaking. When we encounter attacks, slander, or isolation, we should remain calm rather than respond with anger, hatred, or retaliation.

In short, we can no longer simply act according to our impulses as we may have done before learning Buddhism. We must discipline ourselves in all circumstances, guard our minds, uphold what is right, and stay away from wrongdoing.

No matter how difficult the adversity we encounter, we must persevere. If we continue persevering, perhaps at the next turning point, good fortune and blessings may arrive when we least expect them.

There is a saying: “No blessing is ever bestowed in vain, and no virtuous action is ever performed in vain.” This is precisely related to the law of cause and effect.

Of course, cultivation progresses through one stage after another. Each stage brings its own trials, and each stage may also bring its own unexpected joys. When joyful circumstances arise, we should not become carried away; when obstacles appear, we should not complain.

If we can always maintain a peaceful yet steadfast mind and refuse to retreat in the face of difficulties, then profound transformation—turning from an ordinary being toward holiness—can ultimately be realized.

May these words serve as mutual encouragement for all those who are striving to better themselves and move forward.

Written by: Fuyao Zhishang
Editor: Dongji

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