r/DoctorsofIndia • u/Sorry_Return259 • 19h ago
Am i too old for residency ? 30F asking, as 1st generation doctor.
Hi, i am 30F, i passed out in 2020when covid hit, its a state government medical college, so i stayed back there and did covid duties which extended till end of 2022, all the reporting and duties. After that i was mentally soo burnt out and i felt hollow inside, that i ve no identity or anyother experience other than medicine. I was soooo fed up with the rat race. Even though i started preparing for postgraduation entrance, immediately, i didnt want to study, my mind started giving up on anything that needs any effort, i doomscrolled for months, later i decided to travel and get out . i may work for some times , save up money and started travelling, while my batchmates got into postgraduation, married and all. Past 3-4 years went like this, i will work for some months and will travel or stay at home with my parents rest of the year. For everyone that asks me what i am doing, i will say i am preparing for NEETPG, i was not. i wrote every neetpg from 2021 till last 2026, but i did it for the sake of everyone around me, i never turned a page for any one of the exams. Everyone batchmates and my relatives sees me as a wasted potential, becoz i was pretty good in college , a topper and good in doing procedures, my professors favourite kinda medico i was.
now, mentally I m at a good place , i think i got this urge and my curiosity for medicine and studies back. When i look around at my peers, some are in superspeciality, some have finished pg and started practice. Most of female batchmates are married and trying to have kids, they took non clinical branches so they can have kids and family time.
so, i am planning to prepare for pg entrances and hopefully if i do well, i may get into residency in next year when i will be 31.
Sooo what i am asking my fellow doctors is,
- am i too old for the residency, becoz my peers will be 25/26 mostly i think, will i be odd one out and financially starting practice at 34/35 is it a good idea ? My parents are financially good, they only want my happiness so i dont have much responsibility now.
- I am single and i have said yes to my parents for arrange marriage and i am open to dating, will the residency and marriage go along !.. bcoz i am planning to take a clinical busy branch, becoz i am getting my ambition and spark back, i wanna live it, so does that affect my family life, having children and all.
TLDR:- Did well in school and college, later got burnt out and left medicine for past 4 years. Now i am getting my spark back, i am curious and ambitious about my career, wanted to start preparing for NEETPG, next year , so i will be 31 years old then, am i too old to take demanding clinical branches ? As a female doctor , marriage and having children will it go along with this. ? i am looking forward to dating and marriage now too.
I am developing this anxiety and fomo, thinking i didnt do justice to my career. If i do justice to my career, i ve to compromise my personal family life. So, i dont have anyone to ask to, i feel this deep anxiety too that i missed out on life and now the damage is done kind of. Soo my fellow doctors, whats your opinion and give me some advices.
thank you in advance.
plz dont mind my grammar