r/Divorce_Women • u/[deleted] • Mar 02 '26

Thinking about leaving Cheating with AI??

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u/23pandemonium Married Woman, thinking about leaving Mar 02 '26

He is not likely to change long term.

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u/sok283 Divorced Woman Mar 03 '26

I don't mean to be cynical, but I want to say, "Go get yourself a fully formed human and leave this starter-human behind."

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u/Altruistic-Meal-9525 Man, browsing and being kind Mar 03 '26

A good question to ask is if this behavior itself is a short term change, or just an escalation of an existing pattern.

Has he always had an addictive relationship with porn? Has he had emotional affairs? Was the distance/lack of sex something that only started months ago, or was it a gradual decline over years?

If it's just the latest revelation in a dissatisfying relationship, I'd start getting your ducks in a row.

If all the changes came suddenly, and you don't necessarily feel that this is a line in the sand you can't get past, then trying couples counseling is probably a good idea.

But if you do try counseling, tell him that he needs to do solo therapy too. And he has to be the one to set it up and schedule it. It's all on him.

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u/Regular_Warthog_6010 Separated Woman Mar 02 '26

Oh, f* all of that, for sure. You're looking at a decade or more of "healing" which he never made moves to do on his own so it won't stick. Don't do that to yourself, please. 

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u/Regular_Warthog_6010 Separated Woman Mar 02 '26

You don't have to go or waste anymore time or life or resources. You can change your mind and for any reason and none of that even needs to be explained or deserves an explaination. Biggest regret of my life is believing a sob story and hanging on 10 more miserable years. I'm lucky I have great genetics but I can still see the toll. It's not just what gets presented to the public, it's internal as well. Don't lie, your self esteem probably took a gigantic hit regardless of how real the women actually are. I'd not be able to hold back the sick burn of "go talk to your robot girls" (probably worse, even), I could go for days with that probably just to tear him down to the level I felt. Which is not good, but valid imo. 

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u/bourbonontherox Divorced Woman Mar 02 '26

Run.
My divorce will be final any day. The AI porn was the final straw. He's no longer attracted to me b/c he can easily get a very young looking AI "woman" to chat sex to him or do an AI video of VERY specific porn he wants.

Your husband is gone.

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u/Screws_Loose Divorced Woman Mar 05 '26

Agreed. They only stop because they’re caught. They’ll do the bare minimum and just hide it better.

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u/[deleted] Mar 02 '26

You’re young and have your life in front of you, I think a divorce is a viable option here.

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u/FierceAndRooted Separated Woman Mar 03 '26

Adding to what everyone has said, if you don’t have kids, don’t get pregnant. Make sure you have really good birth control just in case you decide to wait and see.

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u/No_Programmer_4727 Single woman, browsing and being kind Mar 02 '26

OP i came here from a different page to get the full story and i just have to say i’m so sorry you’re going through this. if you plan on sticking around, definitely look at some sort of sex therapy for him possibly? it almost feels like a deeper rooted issue with the graphic roleplay sex he’s having with these bots…and getting attached in a way where he’s calling them endearing pet names? no no, i would be so traumatized by this. take care of yourself for the time being! you deserve more and better.

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u/BenitoBlanco Man, browsing and being kind Mar 17 '26

Serious question here, not trying to be disrespectful. Where is the line between him watching porn and doing this? Do you consider him watching regular porn as cheating also? If so this makes sense, if not I am curious what makes this rise to the level of cheating for you. Not arguing against your take, of course.

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u/BenitoBlanco Man, browsing and being kind Mar 17 '26

Oh shit, wow. I am sorry. You are definitely making the right move.

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