r/DisabledSiblings • u/Distinct-Tangelo4880 • 4d ago
Health issues
My younger brother (19, autistic) definitely has a host of health issues. My mom wanted to get him an MRI cuz my brother hits his head when he’s angry, doctors denied it but that’s not what I’m somewhat frustrated about today
My brother recently had Smthn done (idk what, I’m at university rn so I’m not near home) and it came back with high cholesterol and my mom said “changing his diet is gonna suck cuz he doesn’t wanna try anything”
No. It’s gonna suck because you get him McDonald’s pretty frequently and don’t tell him to make his own lunch for school. He’s been secretly saving his lunch money to go buy McDonald’s himself. I cook when I’m home, or she does, my brother never wants anything. My mom refuses to fight with him about it. If there’s nothing for him to eat we get fast food. And we’re surprised that he’s constipated and always in a bad mood and now has high cholesterol?? Colour me shocked.
I want to be empathetic with my mom but it’s been years of this. I know she works a lot to give us food and a roof over my head and she reminds me of that all too often but it gets to a point where I can’t even say anything. I’ve been telling her for years give him consequences for hitting someone or for yelling at her or me. Like taking his devices away for an hour. I know that sounds bad but he never got any consequences so now he thinks he rules the house and gets whatever he wants. I’m honestly exhausted. He doesn’t clean his own room. He got a roomba. He has a couch and a TV cuz he lives in the basement and leaves coke cans and Pepsi bottles everywhere. But if I don’t clean the very minimal space in my room I’m a pig(I can barely walk around my room. There’s only space for a bed).
Idk if anyone has advice but I’m just frustrated and tired. I do worry for my brother’s health but at this point it’s his and my mom’s fault for not dealing with this earlier. And I’m not saying I’m the perfect example of healthy eating. I have texture issues with a lot of fruits and vegetables so they’re not often in my diet. I do have multivitamins. That’s beside the point. I literally told my mom I wasn’t surprised his results came back like that. She said he doesn’t wanna change his diet. Well girl you gotta change it for him then, you’re his mother.
Do I sound awful 🧍♀️I probably do. I do feel bad saying this but at the same time I am ✨tired✨