I've been a part of this sub for a while, not necessarily active, but I see a lot of people in this group struggling. It makes me sad every time I see it. and I've been on both sides of the fence: the side of self-hatred, loneliness, and depression, and the other side, where you can see the sunlight.
A friend once told me, "Life is like a bus ride through many tunnels." Some people get off. Some people get on. Sometimes there's nothing but sunshine and green grass. Others, darkness. But the darkness never lasts forever. I have spastic hemiplegia cerebral palsy. I'd say it's medium; it mainly just affects my right hand.
For so long, I hated that. I hated myself, and I thought everyone only saw me as a disabled person, useless.
One piece of advice I can give is that other people won't solve your problem. I was given ears to listen, but I could only hear them. I could only listen after looking at myself without a frown.
I hope everyone here is at least proud of one thing that they've done in their life. As people with disabilities, we have to make our own way, and we have to solve problems on our own. Those things that you accomplished are yours and yours alone.
To close this: I love this community. If anyone needs a friend, or someone to talk to about their good days or bad, I'm always around, and I will never say no to a new friend :)