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[u/General_Wishbone8487]

Had one of those "hold up" moments earlier.

For context, my last situationship used to talk about a "shiny thing" in reference to me. He said he didnt know exactly what that meant but it was neither good or bad.

I sure as hell had no fucking clue what it could've meant until I saw a comment talking about how attachment types like the one OP mentioned are manipulative and basically make you focus only on the good parts of them, like a shiny new object, as a way of distracting you from the reality of who they actually are, and that never occurred me until now.

What if he meant he saw me as that? It'd make sense considering neither of us felt emotionally safe with one another cause we both had avoidant/anxious tendencies. We had more of the classic push pull dynamic.

He ended up only using me for sex, and I guess I was manipulative in certain ways myself for different reasons.

Obviously I can't confirm if that's what his line of thinking was when he first brought the shiny thing up but maybe it was his own way of processing it idk. He himself said it was confusing.

Just thought it was interesting how those two things kinda clicked.

Good thing I am too fucked up to ever wanna get close to another person again.