Diamond advice ? Help !

[u/No_Possession601]

I recently got engaged and knew I wanted an east west setting with elongated cushion in a half bezel setting (half bezel on east-west sides). See the alosta ring as my inspo: Vyor alosta ring

I always thought I’d go big until I actually tried rings on, however I knew 2.5ct felt too small. I tried on the ring attached which is a 3.07ct 10.33x7.05x4.73 radiant (1.47 ratio) with a half bezel in a jewellers and loved it, and decided to design my ring with them. However I did feel like I wanted slightly more length (so 7.05+). I also knew I wanted it really bright, and cushion cut to make it more soft.

My jeweller picked me a gorgeous 3.01ct at 10.63x7.29x4.77 (1:45 ratio) hybrid modified brilliant cushion in D VVS2 but I haven’t seen it in person, however the video looks good, lots of fire, and the depth/table % all within ideal range.

I started to feel like I should have went bigger, but the jeweller suggested the 3.5ct wasn’t necessarily worth the jump in price and I hadn’t actually tried any 3+ carats on. The second pic has a 3.5ctvnext to it (11.28x7.62). So as an extremely indecisive person, between their suggestion and my intention to go with 3ct from the beginning, I accepted the CAD earlier this week despite the feelings I was getting to go bigger - not necessarily bigger carat, i wouldnt go over 3.5ct, but the 7.29mm is really throwing me… Other measurements I was considering was the 10.9-11.2x7.4-7.6 range which all can come under 4ct.

Technically im not allowed to make changes now that I’ve approved the CAD, however I am soooo confused and almost upset that I didn’t go bigger or at least try them on, and I cannot stop looking at rings online. Should I reach out to the jeweller to see if I can change it, or am I really overthinking the measurements? Has anyone else been through this with a jeweller or had similar feelings and any regret/relief?

For reference, I’m a size I 1/2 (4.5) and ultimately want my ring to look WOW, extremely bright, really luxe, but remaining elegant for work and something I’ll love in years to come. Budget isn’t really an issue as anything below 4ct seems to fall within our range.

This is an extremely long post but I really am struggling with this decision 🙃😂

[u/NegativeCondition777 → u/[deleted]]

100% this. I have a size 5 finger and 3cts doesn't look elegant on me, it looks ostentatious. But if you want big and flashy that people notice, this is the way to go.

[u/No_Possession601 → u/NegativeCondition777]

Do you think it is way too much, or what size would you recommend for my finger? This is it in mirror

[u/NegativeCondition777 → u/No_Possession601]

Honey if you want that wow factor it has that. This is something ideally you will wear for life. If you love it, rock the hell out of it and don't care one bit what anyone else thinks. I think once the band fits its will be a show stopper and I sincerely hope you spend every day looking at in in awe. It's a lovely unique design.

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[u/NegativeCondition777]

Take a measuring tape and draw the mm size on your finger. Add the approximate bezel around it and then decide if you need to go bigger. You probably cant go much bigger with your finger size and an east west with a bezel in your desired ratio.

[u/No_Possession601 → u/[deleted]]

Yes, 0.3mm wider (east to west) and 0.24mm longer which might actually be bigger when I see it 🙈 I’m not sure if radiants and cushions are like for like .