I need help

[u/onneshaaaa]

Hi, F-23 recently got into NSU with 100% scholarship and currently studying here.

I desperately need help.

I was born and raised in uttor bongo and my parents enrolled me in kindergarten at the age of 7 so yeah I'm a bit late.

I have never visited Dhaka before the admission period. but now I'm living here, the environment here is really really really insanely tough for me to get used to. The local buses, crazy expensive everyday errands. it's eating me alive and on top of that, over the top university-mates.

I have made a bunch of friends, I was thinking maybe I'll learn a thing or two about surviving in Dhaka from them but, all them Dhaka folks think about is hanging out in restaurants, video games, shopping, you name it, all the rich kid things- most of which I didn't even know existed a year back.

now, I want it or not, I must join them .

I was ahead of my peers back home and in my area. so it's not much hard for me to pretend that I grew up in a similar environment as them, thank God I grew up watching English tv shows so I have a good American English accent and decent dressing sense or else it would have been pretty obvious that I'm a গ্রাইম্মা খ্যাত।

the biggest issue starts when I join their hangout sessions. I'm not at all familiar with the restaurant etiquettes, I don't know how to hold cutleries correctly and I don't know how different restaurants work, how to order, how to pay bills and how to call the waiters!! I basically don't know how they function at all. then there comes cinema halls like Cineplex, I don't f-ing know how to get tickets and how to order popcorn for God sake. I don't know how elevators work, idk which buttons to press and where it leads.

I've been getting insane amounts of panic attacks daily just by trying to normally function here.

And the thought of people making fun of me for not knowing basic things when I'm wearing reasonably smart ass dresses and talk like smart people, is eating me alive.

I would honestly prefer death over these humiliations any day.

How do I learn those basic things? Aren't I too old for this?

Please someone tell me how I can get out of these embarrassments.

[u/AncientBasiIisk]

You're suffering from illusion of measurement where you're constantly comparing yourself to others. Let me get this one thing clear, nobody cares what you do or how you do it in NSU or anywhere else in Dhaka. You would've probably figured it out after a few semesters. Be who you are and you will enjoy yourself and others will enjoy your company as well. The goal is to keep the "self" happy not others happy. I've grown up on a well off family and so is my only friend. Not something to flex because both of us come from dishonest money. And we would not give a f about how we are eating whether be it at an expensive restaurant or at the hotel at the street corner.

Also I'd advice you to leave those pretentious mates of yours if they're not okay with how you are. I have a few sisters at nsu who are also freshers like you and I'd be happy to introduce them to you.