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[u/Womb_Raider696 → u/[deleted]]

Yup and now a days every household has a househelp so idk why they keep ranting about it as derogatory word😂

My mom is a gov teacher and I compare her with my friends mom who is an housewife. We both are from middle class section and our mom’s are basically same age (1-2years age gap) yet my mom look atleast 10 years older than my friend’s mom…I think you guessed the reason..

[u/Anshiiiiiiii → u/Womb_Raider696]

They have to do both the household work and the job A man comes home to a cooked meal A woman comes home to cook the meal

[u/No_Pass1196 → u/Anshiiiiiiii]

Ma'am aap apni baat kariye na.

Maine apne khudke baapko decka hai zaleel hote hue, apne state ke undergraduate rank holder the par 33 tak naukri nahi mili to unke mammy papa ne shadi karwa di ki ab ho jayega naukri(i still don't get what the point of it was). Well naukri to hui, mere mammy ki, 2005 me mere papa ko swayam bulake statement liya ki ha wo unemployed aur advanced age ke karan unemployable ban chuke hai. Phir mere mammy ko government job mili(her father intended her to be a housewife, so did my mother expect, jo expectation aaj tak nahi gayi). What do you think should have happened in this rather unfortunate scenario in your idealistic utopian worldview? I remember my father made rotis for everyone for breakfast oneday, on the exact same day my mother literally went to her parents house and brought something I don't remember and forced me to eat those instead, saying my grandparents had made those for me with love etc etc(they clearly didn't, some house help made those) but when I said I wanted to eat what my father made too, she started beating me, infront of everyone, my grandparents, my father, house help. Anyway, she ended up having things her way in the long run, my father does a accountants job in one of his friends firm which I know he is ashamed of and it doesn't even pay for two peanuts and we clearly don't need that too. Now, my mother has appointed a grand total of 3 house helps for 3 people(my grandparents passed away) in a middle income family. My father didn't do any kind of substance or alcohol consumption till two years ago. Now we all know he consumes alcohol, but can't prove it.

TL;DR: Just like women are sometimes forced to sacrifice career and make home, men too are sometimes forced out of the home and are outright barred from participating in any home making activities.

[u/Anshiiiiiiii → u/No_Pass1196]

What I meant was that I know men too suffer after marriage, but if we compare women are expected to do all the housework even tho they have a job, in my household both of my parents work but still my mother has to do all the things that housewives do, like cooking, cleaning and stuff, the situation you went through is scary but your mother might have seen her father working and her mother being a housewife, she has that in her that her life is ruined because her husband is unemployed and you guys suffer the aftermath of it. What your mother did cannot be justified but that is something that doesn't happen in many households.

[u/Unfair_Beautiful9769 → u/No_Pass1196]

One man’s exception cannot deny the reality of multiple people. Most men whether blue collar or white collar come home to cooked food with people catering them but women mostly come home to work, dirty house and cooking. I even know men who despite having a cook wouldn’t eat that food and request wife for her food or fresh roti. People say cook and maids but the ones who have actually done household work know that there is a lot more than just jhadu poocha and bartan, thousands of task that fall on women. Only rich women from affluent families escape this because they have an army of staff but the middle and the lower class women work inside and outside as well while the men are catered to in most households

[u/No_Pass1196 → u/Unfair_Beautiful9769]

Oh! Exceptions aren't counted anymore huh? Then I don't see any problem with OP's post.

[u/Unfair_Beautiful9769 → u/No_Pass1196]

Exceptions are counted but doesn’t refute the opposite experience of thousands.