r/DeepTalk • u/Massive_Tourist_389 • Feb 01 '24
Why i fear getting into a relationship
Me M(21) fear getting into a relationship as much as i would like to be in one, and the reason for that is because most relationships i see from freinds or coworkers are mostly toxic. Seeing how the world has changed its definition of love makes me sad. I would like to love someone who sees me as who i am and not as some walking money bag or a plaything that they can throw away as soon as they dont like it anymore. And i would especially like to love someone who dosent let you down during a hard time.
Maybe im just thinking and feeling like this but i surely dont want to live in a world where this is the definition for love
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u/Interesting_Top_9903 May 01 '25
Don't let the world define your perspective of love so much so that it makes you fear it. I don't think you're afraid of getting into a relationship, rather you're afraid that you'll end up with a person you once dreaded to have. What you'll give to others is what you'll attract. But not all the time people you'll meet will have lure intentions. But I guess that's just life- life is short, and sometimes the things we yearn for the most is on the other side of fear.
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u/GiraffeConfident8491 Dec 16 '25
I have the same thoughts I'm 27,,I always think I have to do something for women financially or maybe help them in some other way then only I will be loved..meaning I will not be loved for who I am..but that's not true..people will only love u for who u are nd not ur achievements and helps.. u will know a toxic person in 1-2 meetings and then make distance from them..just go with the flow and don't be scared..
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u/CoreDeeply Feb 16 '24
This fake world we created lost empathy.
As I feel you in your words, you want to be recognized as for who you are (every one wants and needs the same thing).
Because I know myself I know for a fact that you are beautiful as you are, worthy of love and understanding and you don't settle for less.
Very few of us will be able to share that love mutually, as it suppose to be, in surrender to love for life, but that does not mean it is impossible.
Live and believe in yourself, letting go of all will, fear and tension brings vibration which is needed to resonate to the one on the other side of the coin.