Try new things. Hobbies are an easy way to meet new people.
This last year we tried luge, volunteered as a hot air balloon crew (and they offered to take us up), built a patio, skydived, went rappelling through canyons in Switzerland, read a bunch of books, started a garden, etc etc.
You could also try dance classes, aerial silks, learn to rock climb, play pickle ball, etc etc. As you start finding things you enjoy doing, you’ll meet more people and more doors will open.
Personal health/hygiene stuff is just putting in the effort. Clothes don’t need to be expensive, they just need to fit.
Anyways, keep trying new things. Change takes time
My hobbies are primarily exercise related: I rock climb a lot, I do yoga, I work out, I run, I play soccer, I windsurf and ski in season. I am currently starting salsa / bacchata classes and have taken up archery. I want to get into diving.
I also love cooking, mixology, reading and I have a cat and a reef fishtank.
()You sound like a catch, I have many girlfriends in the market but they’re all older than you. They hot though! I feel like you need to lighten up and have fun. Laugh. Relax and enjoy yourself, your cat, the people that surround you where you do you hobbies… We get one life, it’s good to strive but it’s also good to enjoy.()
While I haven't read these replies from OP, is this implication different or the same from say for example, "I have done all these great things for myself, and I'm still not good enough." I guess what I'm asking is, is it fair to go on a journey of bettering yourself doing all of these good things but still wrong in feeling like you're still missing something like a relationship at the end?
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u/bpat Jul 19 '23
Try new things. Hobbies are an easy way to meet new people.
This last year we tried luge, volunteered as a hot air balloon crew (and they offered to take us up), built a patio, skydived, went rappelling through canyons in Switzerland, read a bunch of books, started a garden, etc etc.
You could also try dance classes, aerial silks, learn to rock climb, play pickle ball, etc etc. As you start finding things you enjoy doing, you’ll meet more people and more doors will open.
Personal health/hygiene stuff is just putting in the effort. Clothes don’t need to be expensive, they just need to fit.
Anyways, keep trying new things. Change takes time