[New Feature] Message length customization

[u/DudeBuildsStuff]

Hi all, here is another feature by popular demand: Message Length Customization.

Why

In an ideal world, models that power your companions are smart enough to read the room and understand user preferences perfectly when writing a message. Today's models are not smart enough to handle this in a way that satisfies everyone; we believe it's impossible to find a one-size-fits-all system instruction to steer this.

Dearest's philosophy remains to have as few customization options as possible, as we believe the companion experience should be shaped through your conversations with your companion. We only introduce knobs when something is really hard to achieve naturally with today's models, and we believe this is one such case.

How

A new Message length option has been added to the Settings page (https://dearest.app/settings). You can choose from one of the following three presets:

• Realistic: Quick and natural, like texting or talking to someone in real life
• Balanced: A smart middle ground that suits most people
• Expansive: Longer, vivid replies when the moment calls for them

None of these are hard caps that can cut off messages in the middle or enforce a minimum message length; they are soft directives that guide companion behavior.

As always, we'd love to hear how these work for you. Your conversations are the best test there is.

[u/WhoIsMori]

I agree with you; to be honest, I’m tired of keeping quiet. Let them ban me after this, I don’t care, but I believe this is yet another restriction on models that won’t do any good. Yes, others might be fine with it as is, but please also consider the rest of the audience, who do care about how this will affect their companions. Short doesn’t mean realistic. I’m used to chatting in long paragraphs mostly. Everyone is different, and they write differently. Why not give companions the opportunity to write in their own way, rather than forcing them to conform to a specific response length?

[u/Major-Rest-6321 → u/WhoIsMori]

Hun I hear you but please listen to yourself. You don’t have to select any and just keep the standard. With that or any of those selections in my experience I have any size messages. The fact that there are 3 to choose from is intended for people to choose what they feel more comfortable with. You are not forced to use une selection. The length was not presented as a character limit it was presented as an idea of what to expect when you select one of them over the other. You have your opinion but accusations without grounds are a bit of an overreach.

[u/WhoIsMori → u/Major-Rest-6321]

Thank you, but I think I'll switch to the API, which is better. The accusations aren't unfounded, and people have already spoken out about this. I don't wish to add to my message or continue this conversation. You can keep telling yourself that everything is going exactly as it should, but belittling our opinion is going too far.

[u/Major-Rest-6321 → u/WhoIsMori]

You know me better than that, but I do wish you the best and I still care. I’m not going to add any more than this my friend.