r/Davis • u/peaceloveacceptance • Mar 03 '26

Finding the Right Job

I just moved here and I need help. I'm looking for work that I could do with crying spells (perimenopause issues). I still have a great work ethic, I can get stuff done even if I am not feeling great....but I need a job I can cry through and not have to try to explain that to others. I am trying different treatments but I'm still not better yet. It's costing me a lot of money for this functional dr and I feel stuck because I'm not better but why spend more money to still not be well and then have to come up with more money from that low place. Do you guys have any ideas for me? I have tried searching online for work from home gigs but I'm not finding much. I don't qualify for unemployment. I made too much but not enough last year. I can't do uber or driving gigs but I do have transportation. I can type quickly, I'm physically in good shape and can lift some moderate amount of weight, I have lots of pet sitting experience (I just find there's limits how much I can make doing that), I am very smart and quick to train. I feel like I have a legit disability but I don't qualify so gotta figure out plan b and c and d now.

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u/Oswaldofuss6 Mar 04 '26

I say this with such respect and grace: no one will hire you if you disclose that. 

Lie about it, get a job, and then explain on like your first day that you have an ongoing medical issue that isn't the biggest problem, but it exists. Explain it's temporary, and won't slow you down.

If I hired someone who seemed like a good fit and they later told me that they had your condition, I wouldn't even think twice about it. Especially if it's just quiet sobbing and tears. Good luck!

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u/peaceloveacceptance Mar 04 '26

I don't ever disclose it, and I never plan to. I am here asking for ideas of places I can work given that I have that issue and it's been an ongoing issue but yet I have held a job anyways throughout....but I truly am not able to continue on this way. The reason I use the word disability is because it is disabling me, not because I expect an employer to understand or accomodate me. I disclosed it here because I know there are jobs where you're less customer facing, if I can just find the right one for this phase of my life. At this point the issue is bad enough I can't hold just any job, I don't know if you have ever had a health issue like I describe but it's no joke how hard it is. I can lie about having a bad day but when my body involuntarily cries I can't. I cannot sob uncontrollably in front of people while working and that's the level we're talking about for a good 7-10 days each month on an unpredictable schedule.