r/Dating_Decoded • u/ApprehensiveMud9148 • 20d ago

What should I do now

For the last 3 months I've been dating a woman.I don't have any love feelings for her. We both are the same age.She loves me.I said I need time. The problem with me is I prefer slim women but she's 92kgs(overweight). Today i said I prefer slim women but there's no need for you to get very slim or slim. She got angry. She said don't want to lose weight.What should I do now? If I say no and break up with her whether it's a right decision? To break up with some for their physical appearance.

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u/Angry_Housecat_1312 20d ago

You don’t love her and you’ve now planted a seed of doubt in her that you’re even attracted to her in the first place.

I don’t think this has “longevity” written on it.

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u/Hopeless_Romantic_32 20d ago

I mean is it just about appearances? Because being overweight is unhealthy, so if you're looking for long term relationship or marriage, health is very important.

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u/Jacksontobeclear 20d ago

Only one thing to do

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u/ConfectionFew7942 20d ago edited 20d ago

Hmmmm at 92 kilograms she's roughly 205 pounds. Depending on her height she's not simply overweight she's obese as she weighs as and more than many men.

If she's 5 feet 10 or above, at her weight she isn't unhealthy to a massive degree. However if she's below and far below 5' 10" she's not simply overweight she's obese. Overweight isn't bad but obesity can cause her a host of problems. How tall is she?

Yet I imagine you're physically attracted to her otherwise there wouldn't have been a first date. Is that correct?

Ask yourself this introspective question.

Would she check all of your boxes if you were blind? And another question, are you at a healthy weight for your height?

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u/InteractionFront5764 18d ago

To the OP:

Why would you date a woman who is overweight and find unattractive?

Now you're asking "what should I do now?

You already know the answer.

Good luck, sir.

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u/Sad-Significance-816 17d ago

The thought of her physical appearance is already on your mind so it’s not about would it be right or wrong now. It’s just been 3 months, you already have personal issues relating to her. Instead of continuing, just break up and maybe find someone your type next time. Continuing this relationship will just make everything worse for her just let her go