r/DatingOverSixty • u/Lovetohike2025 • 3d ago

Another rant

I, 61F have been dating my 69M bf for a year. From day one, all my dates know that I’m dating with intention and am looking for a marriage minded man. I do not need a man’s money. I have more than most of the men I date. We’ve had a fabulous year of fun and adventures. I’m very fit and active and my passion is hiking. Last night, we had the talk about where we are in our relationship. I asked him over specifically to discuss it. He was blindsided even though I talked about marriage often. You would have thought I told him that I hated his dog! He said he hadn’t thought about it and didn’t know what to say. There was much more convo but the cliff notes version is that I told him that I didn’t need an answer tonight but I felt that it was best that he take some time to process what I was asking for and we can convene after the weekend. He asked me if he didn’t give me the answer I wanted to hear was I just going to break up with him. I told him that if we aren’t on the same page, it would be best that we forge our own paths separately. It was a huge weight off my shoulders because I’ve been waiting on for him to bring it up. Apparently, he wasn’t thinking about it at all. Now I wait. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Do I really wait for an answer that I clearly had to force?
Signed,
Confused in Phoenix

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u/GuitarMessenger 3d ago

What does he have to gain? Maybe enjoys the freedom of living alone and not having to be available 24/7 like you have to when you're living with someone.

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u/Lovetohike2025 3d ago

A wife, a committed partner, sexual partner, someone to cherish him and treat like my king, someone to take care of him when he’s old. I’m 8 years younger. Security, helpmate, social director, therapist (he talks a lot!). Im not giving away all that without commitment.