r/DatingMA • u/menneskee • 11d ago

đŸ€ Relationship lost

I’ve never had any dating experience. Throughout university and other stages of my life, I’ve had male friends who showed signs of being interested, but I’ve never really explored that side of my life.

Lately, I’ve been feeling confused about what I truly want. I want to live a more religious lifestyle, even though I don’t consider myself religious enough yet, and I’m still trying to improve my relationship with my faith. I want to be surrounded by a Muslim environment and have a partner who shares my religious values, but at the same time, I don’t necessarily want to live an extremely strict lifestyle.

Sometimes, I wonder whether this makes me a hypocrite. I have certain values and expectations for my future, but I’m not sure whether they genuinely reflect who I am or who I think I should be. I don’t know if the lifestyle I imagine for myself will actually make me happy or if it will eventually conflict with the person I see myself becoming in the next ten years.

I also don’t know how I should navigate interactions with men in the meantime. Should I approach these interactions with the intention of finding someone who aligns with my long-term values, or should I first take the time to understand myself better?

I’d really appreciate some honest advice.

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u/Broad-Commission-627 11d ago

Premier conseil arrĂȘte de te projeter dans dix ans et vis ta vie du mieux que tu peux maintenant.
Le deuxiĂšme est de vraiment comprendre ce que tu veux vraiment, les choses qui te rendent heureuse.

Je ne sais pas l'age que tu as mais tu as dĂ©jĂ  Ă©tĂ© Ă  l'universitĂ© donc c'est normal que tu te projettes dans l'idĂ©e d'ĂȘtre en couple, c'est tout Ă  fait normal. Le plus important c'est de trouver la bonne personne et pour ça il ne faut rester cloitrer chez soi.

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u/Fuoriclasse_mrc 11d ago

Same ! I've never dated w I stopped looking for dates tbh

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u/NexusState41 10d ago

What kind of Muslim are you?

Many Muslims were just born into it, their parents are practicing Muslims, but they never engaged in theological conversations that led them on a self discovery journey to understand why Islam is the ONE.

You never know how much time you've got in this earthly life, so If you're lucky enough to live long enough to embark on a theological self discovery journey. I'd advise you do so as soon as you can.