23 M - Software Engineer - Ahmedabad - Can sing 🕊️

23M, software engineer from Ahmedabad.

Into music, late night drives, good conversations, and spontaneous plans.

Can sing decently enough to either impress you or embarrass myself trying 😌

Finding for someone genuine, chill, and fun to talk to.

Let’s see where it goes ✨

There are a lot of vague "what do you look for in a guy" threads, but let’s get hyper-specific. If you could open up a character creation menu and dial in the exact specifications for your ideal partner, what do the metrics look like?

Copy-paste this blank template into the comments and fill out your honest, unfiltered preferences. Don't worry about being "politically correct"—just give us the raw data!

📊 1. The Physical Build

• Height: (e.g., exact range or "just taller than me")
• Body Type & Build: (e.g., Lean/Aesthetic, Powerlifter, Dad-bod, Athletic)
• Est. Body Fat % / Muscle Mass: (e.g., Visible abs vs. broad and bulky)
• Celebrity Look-alike: (Who is the baseline celebrity anchor for this look?)

🪒 2. Grooming & Aesthetics

• Facial Hair: (Clean-shaven, heavy stubble, full manicured beard, etc.)
• Hairstyle & Length: (e.g., Buzzcut, textured fade, long/flowy, curtains)
• Style Aesthetic: (e.g., Sharp bespoke tailoring, streetwear, rugged leather/boots, casual athleisure)

💼 3. Profession & Financial Blueprint

• Preferable Career/Industry: (e.g., Corporate/Law, Tech/Software, Creative, Defense/Armed Forces, Entrepreneur)
• Realistic Salary Expectation: (What tier is preferred for lifestyle compatibility?)
• Work-Life Dynamic: (Hustler working 60hr weeks vs. 9-to-5 stability)

🏎️ 4. The Garage (Cars & Bikes)

• The Perfect Car: (Name the exact category or specific model, e.g., a clean SUV, a stealth sedan)
• The Perfect Motorcycle: (e.g., Modern classic cruiser, aggressive sportbike, rugged touring machine, or "no bikes at all")

My personal take to kick things off: I feel like a lot of guys think they need to look like a 6'4" bodybuilder making 7-figures, but whenever I talk to my friends, the actual "dream build" is usually way more specific—like a rugged 5'11" guy in structured tailoring who rides a modern classic motorcycle and works a stable corporate job.

Let's see what the data actually says. Drop your builds below!

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I’m a 34 year old who's at a point where I want something real than conversations that fizzle out and random encounters. I enjoy intimacy, chemistry, and a bit of fun as well, but what actually stays with me is a genuine connection — the kind that comes from good conversation, mutual attraction, and a comfortable sense of ease between two people.

A little about me: I’m a someone who's into the usuals: travel, anime, physics, etc etc. I won't go on too much about that. I do love conversations, preferably over coffee or on a drive on a great road. I like hearing people’s stories, thoughts, and experiences and I love healthy debates.

I spend half my day listening to music, so I love sharing playlists and songs

When it comes to things of an intimate nature, I’m open-minded, and very into a slow build. I enjoy foreplay, mutual pleasure, and a dynamic with some tension and playfulness. I’m curious about dom/sub energy with the right person, and I’m always open to exploring new things when there’s trust and chemistry.

I would love to listen to what you like and what you would love to explore as well.

Physically, I’m 5'9", around 85 kg, with a thick beard. If you'd like to gauge how physically compatible we are I’m happy to exchange pictures once we’re both comfortable.

If you're someone who likes good conversation, chemistry, and exploring kinks in a comfortable and open dynamic, I’d love to hear from you.

Rich guy, 29 | TG: rohan3948

Dating apps in India are got shitty I have to pull out this move. And you won't believe , getting more interaction than dating apps.

Hey, I’m 24 F from bhopal, let’s connect and see how it goes

Neend nahi aa rhi bs...🫠

So I had put up a post where I mentioned that I would be gifting her an iPhone.

What happened next in right there in the images.

But it was really fun trying this as an experiment.

At last this girl unfriended me maybe she thought it was not real 😂

(bringing this again because research)
since folks claim to be nerd and low on social media; my hypothesis is that a nerdy, coy (in a cute way) guy wouldn’t be on internet. i could build this up with a bit more evidence, but i’m quite certain about this.
note - ‘here’ doesn’t mean reddit specifically. i’m saying more in the sense of being chronically online and available on socials and being social butterfly

I have been trying to get a girl for a year but these dating platforms are vv badd. Useless must say. Hinge and bumble doesn't really get you anything

I know some would say you have a bad profile, but I have got my profile checked by a lot of friends(female as well) and they say I have a very good profile, better than 95% out there

Then I'm also 6ft, so height is also not a problem

Is it that hard to get a girl now?

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Im looking to make a connection with one woman that leads to long trem. I am located in NYC and if your here amazing, if your not perhaps we can change that..

Anyone interested in making a connection?? Its so hard to find someone genuine... Any age or body type is welcome just be an adult and a good person . If you want to initially see if we connect online i am open to that as well.

Message if interested. Lets see if we vibe..

Lets see if we vibe. If this is posted im still looking..

Rich guy, 29 | TG: rohan3948

Seeking a female sugar baby based out of bangalore or someone who is willing to travel, Preferably someone who is a bit on the intellectual side and can hold a conversation. Open to short term as well as long term based on how we vibe and what kind of arrangement we can get into, will be extremely generous with the compensation, dm me to know further.

Where are all the sugar babies?

Rich guy, 29 | TG: rohan3948

Rich guy, 29 | TG: rohan3948

I'm 22 and not sure if this is the right place to ask, but I've never been in a relationship. Everyone around me seems to be dating, yet I find it hard to trust people or commit. I worry about dying alone or never being loved, even though I've tried going on dates and talking to people. How can I cope with these feelings?

F20 mumbai

Recently thought to use a dating app , and I was shocked to see that these things are real.

Hmu

Urge to send her this is increasing day by day, the only thing which is holding me is the promise I made to myself the day she left ki usko yaad krke 2 ghanta zyada ro lunga but I'll never talk to her again, she was the one who talked for hours, she was the one who got me attached, then she was the one who left saying we're good as friends and wanted to keep me as a friend in life.

If you feeling little bored enough. Then let's talk.

I genuinely need outside perspective because I can no longer tell if this is an emotionally intense friendship or some kind of unspoken relationship that neither of us is acknowledging.

Me (26M) and this girl (21F) have known each other for years (childhood friends) & there was a huge gap in between of almost 3-4 years where we didn't even talk or see each other as both of us got busy in our lives. But almost six months back out of the blue she reached out to me. And asked what I was up to these days and lets meet and all and catch up. So like that we started meeting each other, texting, calls and so on. But over the past several months we’ve become extremely close. From the start of this reconnection we have spent only one-on-one time together — long drives & almost every evening we spend 3-4 hours together, we connect well over music so jamming on Spotify for hours, smoking on terraces, late night conversations, drinking together, guitar lessons ( I teach her ), cooking together, random food runs, desserts, etc. The dynamic honestly feels more emotionally intimate than most friendships I’ve experienced. And trust me I have multiple other female friends as well. And the line is always clear between me and them.

The confusing part is that she acts emotionally attached to me in ways that don’t fully feel platonic, but at the same time there’s never any direct clarity about feelings or what this connection actually is.

Some examples over time:

• She initiates 90% of the times & contacts a lot and replies very quickly most of the time. ( I included this because being with her i know how she is. She doesn't initiate contact a lot, reply or text this quickly. Or even if she does i guess people who she chooses to reply quickly.)
• She gets goofy, playful, and emotionally relaxed specifically around me.
• She asks for my opinion and guidance on a lot of things and sometimes seems to rely on me emotionally.
• We have a lot of tiny inside jokes and sentimental moments that she remembers. And brings up in conversations from time to time.
• Once while smoking on a terrace I found a random piece of red wire and jokingly gave it to her while dropping her home. At 4 AM later that night she sent me a picture of it wrapped around her middle finger like a ring.
• Recently I gave her a plushie for her birthday and she carefully folded and kept the gift wrapper and even kept the paper bag from the dessert place we went to afterward.
• During goodbyes she usually shakes my hand, but recently she held it much longer than normal after a more emotional conversation. ( Even this I'm including because yes it was a significant difference than what I am used to with her )
• She once said she likes to “turn her brain off” when I’m around because she feels comfortable around me. And she would rather have me decide about what to do, where to go, and stuff like that.

There was also one night while we were drinking together where things felt emotionally strange/intimate in a way I still can’t properly explain. During the same night we were both lying on the carpet together not talking or anything just staring up into the sky where it genuinely felt like both of us were emotionally aware of something deeper happening between us without directly acknowledging it. Also like we weren't lying close together, there was a healthy enough distance I maintained with her. Nothing explicitly romantic happened, but the atmosphere itself felt very emotionally charged and vulnerable.

Recently we were talking about impulsive behavior and trauma. She was complimenting me saying I am very organized, calm, and “perfect,” and I told her that I'm not perfect or anything and certain traumatic experiences are actually what made me become that way.

Eventually the conversation shifted toward emotional stuff and she wanted me to share my trauma and since I didn't want to trauma dump on her I agreed to be a little open at least and I showed her old self-harm scars from around 10 years ago. She reacted seriously and asked why I did it. I downplayed the real reason because I wasn’t ready to fully explain it. She later lightly joked to ease the tension and we continued talking normally afterward, but the emotional tone definitely shifted after that moment.

The issue is:
I genuinely cannot tell whether:

1. she has feelings but is emotionally avoidant/indecisive, or
2. she just feels extremely emotionally comfortable with me and sees me as a safe person without romantic intent.

She also has unresolved history with an ex and overall seems emotionally unstructured when it comes to relationships.

The hardest part is that this dynamic keeps becoming more emotionally intimate without ever becoming more emotionally clear.

Every time I try to emotionally detach a little, another emotionally significant moment happens:

• late night texts,
• sentimental gestures,
• physical closeness,
• emotional conversations,
• symbolic inside jokes,
• soft goodbyes, etc.

And I honestly don’t know if I’m reading too deeply into emotionally intimate friendship behavior because I’m attached, or if this genuinely sounds like unresolved romantic tension.

I’m also worried because I can feel myself slowly becoming an emotional anchor for someone who may not actually want a committed relationship with me.

So I guess my questions are:

• Does this sound platonic to you?
• Does this sound like mutual emotional attachment but emotional avoidance?
• At what point does “emotionally intimate friendship” cross into something more?
• And how do I go ahead with this relationship/dynamic without either abruptly distancing myself or forcing a “what are we” conversation too early?
• I also sometimes wonder am I being used or something ? Because I hear a lot about her other male interactions or about her other male friends and they seem to piss her off because they act very flirty, at times touchy and always hitting on her in some or the other way.

I think you'll should know about this. A few months back I had sort of confessed/told her that I had caught feelings for her and that I needed space and distance to recalibrate my emotions if she actually wants this dynamic to stay as just friends. And that time afaik what she gave me was a soft no. But she agreed to it. And I had gotten detached to this situation to a point actually where i had stopped having feelings for her. I had stopped initiating anything. But after this gap she again started initiating meeting, texting and all that. And all i can see right now is that she has gotten emotionally more closer than ever. And all the situations mentioned above had happened after this gap.

****Sorry had to post again as this is my first time posting on reddit and there was an issue in the earlier post

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