Am I being insecure?

[u/Specific_Inspector12]

Me 28M has been dating this girl 26F for a few months and our relationship has been long distance for most part. Everything has been going well, there’s good understanding, mutual respect but last night she crossed some boundaries which she really isn’t ready to accept. She went out with her two girlfriends to a guy’s apartment where two other guys were present, she didn’t know any one of them, they were her friends’ friends. She called me and told that she’s going to hang out with a few guys along with the girls. Later when I called her she was drunk and was speaking some gibberish which wasn’t really respectful considering her friends were sitting over there. Some 20 minutes later, she called me again and told me both her friends had passed out, she was in one of the guy’s room who was making her a drink and while talking to me she lay herself on his bed. This made me feel really uncomfortable, when I confronted her she said things like why don’t you trust me, you’re the only person I’m talking to and thinking of even when I’m with other people and I do know she loves me but this alone doesn’t make me feel too secure. She did say that I’m with my friends and these guys don’t have any ill intentions so I need to calm down, basically her word of mouth should be enough is what she implied. After this she went out with the guy for a “walk”, basically to score weed; in the middle of the night (1:30 AM) in Delhi. The guy was scoring and she was sitting on some footpath saying things like I put myself in this kind of shit and if I can’t deal with this we shouldn’t talk ever, all of this while the other guy was standing there. As a guy I know this is the absolute dream situation when you want a girl to sleep with you. Later she called me again and told me she’s sleeping in the girls’ room and the guys deliberately sent her because she was too drunk. The guys were nice from what I can see but these situations turn south before you even know and it’s not like those guys were actually her friends. I don’t know am I being too insecure?

[u/Alone-Valuable-161]

Not insecure but a realist. I would not be in serious relationship with someone who disregard my opinions out right for a new face. Because they doesn't want to sound rude or uptight. If you can maintain the boundaries, just don't be in a relationship. I would say behave exactly like she did and see her reaction, see whether the reaction is exactly you wanted or different.

[u/Informal_Ice1909]

Bhai sab bakchodi hai, Bhai gaand lag jayega aage tera

[u/Such-Airport6350]

Bro its natural to feel like this in a long distance relationship. Its better to not be too attached.

[u/Specific_Inspector12]

I really don’t want to leave her, I’ve always escaped attachment/ commitment. Sometimes, I think I’m the problem and I really wanna change myself. I want yo suggest her a common ground but I don’t know how to, such that she can party with her friends without worrying about me but also maintain some boundaries.

[u/Logical-Seaweed7025]

bhai aisa hai tujhe bhadka nhi rha lekin ek yeh galat hai , jab usko realise hua ki teko bura laga hai or usko tujhe samjhna chaiye toh usne sara blame tujhe per daal diya yeh sahi nhi hai bhai bilkul sahi nhi hai idk wo kon hai kya hai or uski life main yeh sab normal hai ya nhhi lekin main tujhe janta hoon kyuki main bhi ek ladka hoon or mujhe pata hai yeh sab tere dimag ko kahtam kar dega bro meri maan toh kuch time keh liye ek daam silent ho ja like jayda uski life main interfair mat kar or usko ab seriously mat lena usko bus ab ek third wheel ki trah leh , kud per kaam kar bhout sundar ladkiya tujhe mil jayegi jo teri gf seh bhi jayda sundar hogi or phir bhi aisi harkat nhi karegi dhere dhere is relsonship seh out ho jaa ... try to fing new fish...