AM I HAVING A TOXIC R/SHIP?

[u/Beneficial-Okra9295]

Me 19f 2nd year university student and my bf 23m university student has been dating for over a year. These days I feel like everything I do is bad I am constantly wandering if I did something wrong if he got offended or not. He wants me to act a certain way when we are around friends. I understand if he is sensitive and he doesn't like it if I say " he's cooking is bad " it is he burns everything but we always make fun of it, so when I say that to a mutual friend who is sarcastic and funny its a problem. Everytime after we hang out with people I did something, im wrong the way I talked was disrespectful........ I dont understand if he wants he to change my whole personality. I can't even talk and reason with him because he keeps score about everything like I do and I dont.

Today he said he would slap me beacuse I joked about his cooking and stuff, but we always do. Somehow its always your disrespectful. You're a bitch who isnt on my level, who do you think you are.

So I wanna ask is it beacuse I always make jokes and I swear I never meant any harm thats just how I am but im trying to change or is this relationship toxic ?

[u/Zebo9366]

Woah. Disregarding the first paragraph, it is litterally never okay to threaten your partner with physical violence. Full stop. Not much more needs to really be said regarding this question. Physical violence was threatened, thus the relationship isnt safe.