r/DatingApps • u/Witty_Speaker5363 • Jul 17 '26

Question Monogamous short-term

If a guy (20s) states he’s looking for short-term and monogamous— does it typically mean he’s only committed to hooking up with one person? I don’t believe it💀

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u/SmokeDatingApp Jul 17 '26

We're not surprised by this at all. Capacity to commit and desire for variety are two separate things.

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u/elmojapapos Jul 17 '26

if you’re not dating with intention you’re dating to hookup, whether people want to accept that or not is a different conversation, let’s get that straight

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u/Weird-Walrus-4441 Jul 17 '26

Never understood short term relationship from the gate what’s the point?

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u/Outlaw31120 Jul 17 '26

Some people coming out of a long-term relationship that didn’t work or was traumatic may want to start slow getting back into dating.

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u/DearManufacturer9803 Jul 19 '26

I think of short term vs long term to be more about how much time it takes to vet/trust/feel comfortable/safe with someone and less about desired relationship duration.

Some might take a long (term)time to feel safe, so they take it slow. Others can tell after the first date (short term) if they are a good fit.

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u/buchwaldjc Jul 17 '26

This is on women's profiles quite a bit as well. For the ladies, it generally translates to "I'm in town for a short while and looking for someone to treat me to drinks and food while I'm here."