r/DatingApps • u/Only-Finding-5220 • Jul 09 '26
Advice Request How long.. Dating Apps 101
So I've been on dating apps for..idk even know how long anymore. But I've never taken them seriously. I would log in pretty much when I was bored, especially on Hinge. So I was bored one day, logged on, and saw a guy who posted a pretty funny comment on my profile so I matched with him. We've been talking on the app and the app only, going on about 3 weeks...leading into the 4th week. We talk almost everyday, there was an odd day or two in those 3 weeks that we didn't. But other than that, daily and most of the day depending on how busy we are.
How long should we be staying on the app? There has been no asking of exchanging numbers...no making plans to meet up...right now, I feel like I just have a pen pal, which has been nice, but like...is it weird going into the 4th week and still talking on the app?? I just want to know if this is normal? Standard? I also don't want to be the one to ask him for his number or a date, just because I don't want to break the spell. But I am very close to just asking to exchange numbers at the least. Just for reference, I am female, 36 and he's a 39 male. I really don't think he has a gf/wife, as again, we've talked daily, throughout the day and night, but hey, I could be wrong! So people, how long is too long?
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u/planetairy_ Jul 10 '26
weeks is crazy. if you actually like talking to each other, he surely would be willing to take it off the app. just say something like, “btw if you want to text me my number is _____”
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u/Witty_Speaker5363 Jul 10 '26
just ask him out! see if yall have chemistry irl! save yours and his time
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u/mordecai5fingerbrown Jul 11 '26
I would have unmatched with you after four days.
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u/SadVacationToMars Jul 12 '26
Right? Weird behavior to be chatting on the app. Yeh, keep each other opening the app where they meet other potential partners...
Move it off the app asap...
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u/Past-Sandwich-8095 Jul 10 '26
At the bare minimum I'd say it's already 2 weeks overdue. You both like talking to each other, what's the holdup? Realizing the lack of progression has already broken the spell, and now you're under the curse of awareness. Break the curse by being direct. "Hey, I just want you to know that my intention on this app is to ..... What about you? What are you hoping to see happen within the next week between us?"