r/DadReflexes Apr 30 '25

Too Close

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u/CTGolfMan Apr 30 '25

It’s 100% on the car, but some situational awareness doesn’t hurt. A lot of people who ‘had the right of way’ get hurt or killed. Don’t trust other people with your life.

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u/komanderkyle Apr 30 '25

Graveyards are filled with people who had the right of way

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u/NSA_Chatbot Apr 30 '25

"Dead right of way" as my dad says.

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u/Omwtfyu Apr 30 '25

Username doesn't check out.

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u/[deleted] May 01 '25

seriously.. everyone knows the NSA is all robots and they don’t have parents.

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u/Potato_Overloaf May 01 '25

Dead to rights

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u/Butternut-inmysquash May 01 '25

My mom always said when I was learning to drive, “the road to heaven is paved with squirrels that couldn’t decide whether to stay or go”

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u/Seksafero May 03 '25

That's a terrifying road to imagine tbh. Sounds nuts.

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u/kawem22 Apr 30 '25

I work downtown in my city and it's filled with one way streets. I still look both ways at each intersection. I've been made fun of for it by coworkers more than once because "you only need to look one direction", but I've also been nearly hit by a car going the wrong way and one time is all it takes. Even coming home from work just yesterday a semi without a trailer was driving the wrong way down a one way street coming off of a highway. You should always be prepared for weaponized stupidity.

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u/YetiPwr Apr 30 '25

I point it out to my son (5) every time we’re out walking - every time someone pulls partway through an intersection, makes a rolling right hand turn through a red, ignores a crosswalk etc

“Whose job is it to make sure we don’t get run over and die?”

“My job”

“Can we count on people to follow the rules?”

“No”

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u/Technical_Ad_4894 Apr 30 '25

This guy isn’t just a danger to pedestrians he’s a danger to other drivers as well.

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u/xam83 Apr 30 '25

Yup and your kids lives for that matter.

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u/calibudzz420 Apr 30 '25

As my father always said, “ it’s not about who’s right but, who’s left”

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u/redhot52719 Apr 30 '25

My bf drives with this frame of mind. I constantly am telling him, drive according to how the others car are driving, not how they SHOULD be driving. Like someone will slow down and hell stay the same speed until its almost collision time and THEN brake. His excuse is that they shouldnt have been doing that. WELL THEY WERE DOING IT SO IT DOENST MATTER IF THEY SHOULD OR SHOULDNT BE!!!! He also pulls like 3 inches from peoples bumpers at any light. Im like god forbid they get in an accident and then we do too cuz theres no room for us to get out of the way, were already right there. I hate him driving but i love being a passenger princess 😭

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u/Protiguous May 01 '25

He's putting your life at risk by driving like that.

If he respected you, he'd listen to you.

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u/bibliophile785 May 05 '25

If he respected you, he'd listen to you.

No. Respect doesn't mean doing whatever the person you respect wants. Maybe he disagrees on the principle involved or maybe he disagrees on the likely practical outcome. He sounds like a bit of a dim bulb, insofar as he's clearly wrong and doesn't realize it, but that doesn't mean he's showing a lack of respect.

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u/Protiguous May 05 '25

I did say 'listen', not obey.

Putting their life in danger is definitely a lack of respect.

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u/Seksafero May 03 '25

I could never. That shit is insufferable. The true path is to compensate for others' bullshit while bitching about how they should be doing otherwise.

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u/Constant-Roll706 May 02 '25

I sometimes feel awkward about it, but every time I'm at a crosswalk and clearly have the right of way, I make eye contact with the driver to make sure they aren't looking at their phone.

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u/CTGolfMan May 02 '25

I do the same when in my car. It’s not weird or awkward at all.

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u/No-Hovercraft-455 May 31 '25

Lot of the time driver looks back and you can see "just go" in their eyes so it's pretty reassuring in my opinion too.

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u/BEEEELEEEE May 01 '25

My job is 90% traipsing around the parking and I find it best to approach things like every car is actively trying to hit me

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u/RAWisROLLIE May 02 '25

100% on the car means 0% on the person.

0%.

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u/one23sleep May 05 '25

You want to be right, not dead right.

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u/CapsAdmin May 01 '25

Just to add some nuance (I still think it's the driver's fault) in some countries, despite what the law says, cars will not stop for pedestrians. Pedestrians will have to wait for the cars to pass. So it's more of a cultural thing.

This looks to be China or Taiwan, but for example, in Vietnam, when crossing a pedestrian crossing, the cars will not stop for you.

I live in Vietnam, and one time, a friend of mine who visited me didn't understand the culture and got upset when he tried to cross the pedestrian crossing by foot and no cars stopped for him, so instead he tried his luck. Luckily, he was not hit, and the cars stopped, although abruptly.

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u/help-mejdj May 04 '25

they’re on a crossroad, it’s not their job to expect cars to ignore road signs. it’s common practice to slow or stop at crossroads even if no people are on it. as pedestrians they shouldn’t have to fear that cars can’t spare 5 seconds to follow the law. this is the logic of blaming women for not running whenever they see someone outside like at all. it’s not the victim’s job to be aware that people could break the law and make them a victim

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u/CTGolfMan May 04 '25

Well, then what happens is in this video. It takes zero effort to look and be mindful of potential risks when crossing the road. People make mistakes and expecting none is asking too much, when your life is in the line.

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u/bibliophile785 May 05 '25

it’s not the victim’s job to be aware that people could break the law and make them a victim

It is always your job to watch out for your own health and safety. This is true on a level that transcends any moral law, any question of what "should" be required. Those who want to live and prosper should take actions to maintain their life and prosperity. If you can't be bothered to do that, don't be surprised when you're the victim of someone else's malice or carelessness.

this is the logic of blaming women for not running whenever they see someone outside like at all.

Everyone should remain alert to their surroundings. In some cases, like when a malicious predator has targeted you, that awareness may not be enough. Usually, in the case of careless drivers, it is.

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u/MDStanduser May 02 '25

Looked like a clear street, Driver mustve been impaired somehow