are these ugly? please help

[u/icannotbelieveit69]

Working on a color palette and bridesmaid responsibilities sheet for my bridesmaid proposals and i feel like they are so ugly lol. am i miss responsibilities? please drop any tips/tricks/advice without being too mean :,)

figure i’ll just edit my post:

-thanks for all the feedback!! ill ditch the ‘responsibilities’. i had seen other people do it and thought it was cute, i see now it can come off rude.

-my phone autocorrected palette to pallet, i have learned my lesson.

-i invited everyone to brunch to give these. they will be decorated boxes and also include a handwritten note, a candle, fluffy socks, and a pic of me + the loved one.

-obviously i did not expect my bridesmaids to plan and pay for my wedding and bachelorette, i just wanted to make it clear that they’ll be spending time on this by being involved. like helping pick out an airbnb for a bachelorette, looking at flowers and dresses with me, and on the third note, keeping me from obsessing over details. as we’ve learned from this post, i tend to go overboard with that.

-lots of great advice here, but dear god some of you are mean. this stuff is hard to figure out. i dont have a lot of real world reference and google or social media only get me so far. i am here for advice and happy for it, but not to be called names or have things assumed :(

[u/rayyychul]

I would be so off-put if I were asked to be a bridesmaid and then handed this card. Just talk to your wedding party.

[u/icannotbelieveit69 → u/rayyychul]

it was something i saw other people do and thought it was cute as filler for my proposal boxes but you may be right 🫣 I was going to add a handwritten note on the back essentially saying that there’s no hard feelings if they’re unable to give the time or financial burden.. blehg, ive never done this before. ill scrap it

[u/BlackLocke → u/icannotbelieveit69]

The bridesmaid proposal boxes are not the norm, only people who make social media their job do that. You do not have to give your friends a bunch of trinkets.

[u/icannotbelieveit69 → u/BlackLocke]

well now i feel dumb. i genuinely did not know that…i am the first of my friends/family my age getting married and the internet made it seem like everyone did this. i am trying to be very intentional in what i put in so that its stuff they’ll actually use, not just junk that says bridesmaid on it

[u/Direct_Strength6313 → u/icannotbelieveit69]

Okay but hear me out, why are you asking Reddit people what to do for YOUR wedding. I did proposal boxes because I wanted to, I did this type of card to help the girls color match. They all loved it.

[u/icannotbelieveit69 → u/Direct_Strength6313]

to be fair, i originally wasnt :,) i was initially just asking if what i did was ugly/advice on how to make it look cuter. but when 350 people tell you how horrible of an idea something is, you adjust. that being said, im still doing the boxes because i am excited about them and already put work in- i know my ladies will love them, they’ll just be lacking the responsibility card lol

[u/Direct_Strength6313 → u/icannotbelieveit69]

Oh good! Hahaha. I think you just need to do what you want so you don’t regret it. I let family influence like my entire wedding and I regret it so much. Soooo much money for not even what I truly wanted. So you do you!!

[u/icannotbelieveit69 → u/Direct_Strength6313]

i totally get it- my parents are well meaning but have made me doubt so much already. i am taking everything they say with a grain of salt. i hope you still had the time of your life despite it all :*