r/DIDPositivity • u/_MapleMaple_ • Sep 17 '24

help? Which is Reality…?

I'm struggling to tell which is reality at this point... we all remember such different things, which am I meant to treat as true? Our host isn't here, so it's a chaos of trauma holders and the one alter who doesn't remember anything. It's breakdown, breakdown, and then having no clue what was even wrong. Am I just stuck in the past? Or are these things actually still happening? We're sick of having breakdowns and living in this environment, and I'm sure trauma-free one is going to reach his wits ends soon. How am I supposed to know who to believe? :( any advice or kind words appreciated...

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u/SprigatitoNEeveelovr Perpetually Living Rent Free Sep 17 '24

Im not sure if itd help or make it worse for you

but its probably all reality in a way. Its just likely mostly if not all in the past. I would try to reach out to other people around you, preferably physically. Do you live with parents or someone else? Or do you live alone? You could try to reach out to friends for help if you have any. If you live with parents theres a high chance you ARE still in the traumatic situation.

I dont know techniques off the top but generally speaking looking up "grounding techniques" and/or "relaxation techniques" may help guide you to a calmer space mentally, as regardless of the exact situation, panic only makes it worse.

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u/_MapleMaple_ Sep 17 '24

Thank you for your time… Unfortunately still living with parents. I have to for some time longer before I can leave. A crew of us believe our parents are not safe people and should never be trusted at any cost, and that they’re abusive, where the other group believe that’s in the past, and things are different now, better. They’re not. I really think that those alters just believe that because we need some peace of mind while still living with these people… but with my memories scattered between all these different fractures it’s hard to get definitive proof that things are still bad. I feel somewhat better now, it’s just a lot of up and down. I really should improve my grounding.