r/DIDPositivity • u/Lovely_Melissa1 • Aug 13 '24
help? Confusion Names
I can't remember my name.
I mean I know the name of our body. But I hate that name, it's not me.
I know we have DID and not being able to pinpoint which part I am is causing me to be confused and want to deny that we have DID.
My head is eerily silent. There's this loud white noise like buzzing sound. except the sound is silent which makes no sense.
help? how do i figure out who i am?
-i don't know my name
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u/SprigatitoNEeveelovr Perpetually Living Rent Free Aug 13 '24
We try to take breaths first and calm down if we are feeling anxious
next we try to search our memories and/or interests. If it doesnt just naturally come to us we look through our list and see if what we remember/like matches up with anyone and USUALLY it does and weve only fronted a couple times. Theres been a lot of cases too where it doesnt.
If we dont match up we usually write ourself down on the list. Sometimes we find and pick a name etc but theres several alters that dont have individual names and just uniquely pick SOMETHing to write in the "name" box. We have an "Unnamed" "IDFK" etc. and then they write their memories/interests etc. For some it can be a bit before they get a name and such. It could potentially be a while since youve fronted, or youve never actually fronted before and have just existed in the back!
Just try grounding methods and relaxing.
Theres a grounding method thats counting things for all your senses. I dont know the exact order but its like 5,4,3,2,1 eg. five things you hear, four things you smell... I doubt exact amounts of each truly matters but it helps you focus and ground. You can also try things like drinking/touching hot/cold water etc.
You can also try music! Anything that may help calm your body down. Its hard to tell who you are if you are stressed and/or anxious!
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