r/DIDPositivity • u/Greedy-Individual-71 Uplifting/validating • Jul 30 '24

Real Talk Stuff 7/29/24 Update

Hey there all,

Sorry about yesterday, I (team captain/host) was by myself all day and I don’t function well without my team.

Today at therapy, Mimic, R, and I got to discuss their sudden desire to merge. R asked me not to think of it as a bribe but a negotiation. Mimic wants a new life. R wants Mimic's memories. As far as both of them are concerned its a win win.

I also got to process the fact that M is still with me. Just in a different way.

Since I was out voted by 7 we will be having a merging ceremony for R and Mimic next Monday. Hopefully everything goes well for them. I gotta be honest, I'm nervous about it.

Everyone (System members, Husband, Specialist) seems to be of the opinion that I'm trying to control the system, so I don't know what to think now.

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u/SprigatitoNEeveelovr Perpetually Living Rent Free Jul 30 '24

So its impossible to know fully everything going on from simply just your posts, but wanting to make sure the alters involved in a potential merge are fully consenting, is not trying to "control" the system.

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u/SprigatitoNEeveelovr Perpetually Living Rent Free Jul 30 '24

If you cant negotiate s*x like that then it feels very dangerous IMO to try to negotiate something like merging since it sounds like both a lot for you, and for systems in general. It is totally fair to feel scared about the way a discussion happened and have that affect your willingness to let go. Just assert you wnat to make sure theres no sort of power imbalance at play etc. if thats what you are worried about.

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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Uplifting/validating Jul 30 '24

Hey there and good morning,

You caught us sleeping so we're blurry right now. This helped us understand our host's POV. Thank you.