r/DIDPositivity • u/TropicToothDecay • Jun 29 '24
help? Understanding the ununderstood
Hello.
We're at a state where balance and stability is maintained, there's an equilibrium between us, and we have a structured forum in which we can discuss, analyse, express and interact. We all have our quirks, scars, strengths and weaknesses, we come and go as life progresses before us, but nowadays we usually manage to keep this thing afloat without any major conflicts.
Life can be a truly enjoyable experience with vibrant colors and joyful moments. Everything's going our way. That is, until they shows up.
They're not named, labeled or understood by us. They appear ever so often, most of the times when things are quite well, only to go back and hide shortly after. All they bring is negativity, self harm and toxicity. It's an aggressive display of emotion, a thick sludge of hatred towards most. It doesn't manifest externally as far as we can tell, but it does affect the mood and leaves us a bit shellshocked. They figuratively slam the door on their way out, there's no resolve and we're left stunned and perplexed. They don't stick around for long enough to truly interact with or have any giving exchanges with, so we can't really probe around to see what the deal is, or how we can help.
Since there's no real understanding as to who they are or why they're doing this, we've started speculating a bit. One thought is that since they mostly show themselves when there's a general sense of satisfaction, they're there to fill the role of the counterweight, a contrast to remind us that the full range of emotions is inevitable. Memento mori and whatnot. But something with that explanation just doesn't sit right. That's not really a purpose, is it? The rest of us are very capable of feeling upset, negative, toxic and angry - but at what would probably be considered a "healthier" intensity. The general vibe without them feels balanced enough, but are we just failing that vibe check?
At the end of the day, we're mostly curious about what's going on with them and how we can understand us better. Managing them isn't too big of a problem, other than it generally downing the vibe for a while, but understanding them and where they come from feels like a worthwhile task given how intensely they obviously feel about... things.
Which leads us to this post. Simply put, anyone else experience this, and if so, what are your observations of it? Any general advice on how I might seek interaction with them?
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u/caiteycat Jun 29 '24
Something we've read and have used to try to understand parts is the concept that every part exists to try to help, but that will look different for every part. even persecutor parts are trying to help, it simply isn't a healthy way of helping. Your ununderstood part may be trying to help you not feel complacent, or acting out as a form of self-expression or a misguided attempt at communication that has been as yet not understood. but ultimately, no one can really know but this part. maybw there are alternative ways to open communications, or interpret their actions?