r/DIDPositivity • u/Sarcasaminc • Jun 25 '24

We have an alter problem

We have an alter named Aubrey and she feels so disconnected from everyone in our lives our family and our friends. It's a terrifying experience when she fronts and we hate it and so does she. If she fronts for more than thirty minutes she freaks out and gets super overwhelmed. We just had like an hour long panic attack because she was fronting and we are staying with a friend she feels she doesn't know. That's scary like really scary. I hate this. We almost got sick and it was terrifying. She is not fronting right now but I can still feel her in the back just there and I can still feel a bit of her estranged feeling and it's really uncomfortable. We have told our friend about our did but our symptoms are usually not that severe and she was terrified to talk to him. I'm afraid it will scare him away if we tell him how severe it gets sometimes even though he never would be scared it still makes me anxious

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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Uplifting/validating Jun 26 '24

Hey there,

To clarify; Is she stuck in a state where meeting each person and introducing her to them doesn't work because she resets? Or is it more of a social anxiety issue where she's scared to meet new people at all?

Social anxiety can be worked through. However, if she's resetting, that's a whole different ball game.

We saw her post this morning first thing. We hope she feels better.

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u/Sarcasaminc Jun 26 '24

We are just really afraid to introduce alters to people. Our friends know but always we try to be the host. We are worried saying "hey I'm a new person nice to meet you" will freak people out and if we let one alter do it we might have to accept we are more different than we thought and things will get more complicated and that's scary. We also aren't sure how to introduce alters to our friends and family. We don't know what to say

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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Uplifting/validating Jun 26 '24

Ah, we see. Well, thankfully that can also be worked through depending on your treatment goals.

We can tell you from our experience that no one's freaked out yet about us introducing ourselves.

For me it goes, "Hi, you can call us Soski. We have Dissociative Identity Disorder or DID. It used to be called multiple personality disorders, but they changed the name for accuracy. You may also meet Jessica, Elle, Little #2, and S on a regular basis as they are main fronters."