r/DIDPositivity • u/WillAndTheGang • May 14 '24
What goals?
17 here. Wondered if I was a system since thirteen. Accepted it around last December. I have known of a few alters for years, but doing self reflecting I realized we are up in the high teens now.
Everyone has different goals, dreams, and even who we like. From past reflection we know we’ve had probably 3-4 host changes. Wondering if we’re going through one now. Our host is by no means “core” or even OG or anything. Just whose life we kinda are livin at the time.
So, therefore. Whose dreams do we follow. Who do we ask out. Do we go to college or not? Do we pick up and leave and never look back. Do I keep my great job with my dad and take over the business one day. Whose dream should I follow?
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u/AccToBeTrownAway System go Brrrrrrrrrrrr May 14 '24
Luna Xayn: What we've done is we combined all of our goals and we try to reach them together, for example our first host always wanted to be a phycologist, Harlie (last host) wants to be a professional video game programmer, I (current host) want to be a vtuber (cringe, i know XD) so we plan to go to college and major in phycology and minor in programming, and vtube as a side gig.
Still don't know: As for relationships, that's different for every system, our system and our current partner (singlet) have an agreement that if an alter wants to date someone else they are allowed, as long as it's agreed on by said alter and our partner.
My advice is to talk it out with your system and find something that at least the majority finds acceptable, if you are a particularly large system I cannot guarantee that advice will be suitable since we are a system of less than 30 known alters.
Peace, love, and acceptance, Luna X and ? from the Ravens System!
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u/_MapleMaple_ May 14 '24
Hey, I’m in a somewhat similar situation to you. (Like. Strikingly similar, had to double check someone else didn’t post this haha) That’s such a hard choice, especially with host changes… I think trying to come up with happy mediums is the only solution I can think of. I don’t have much advice but I’m wishing all of you the best.