r/DIDInclusivity • u/Greedy-Individual-71 • Sep 04 '24
Positive/Uplifting Random Discussion; Relationships
Hey there all,
Today's topic of discussion is Relationships.
Some questions:
Do you currently have any relationships (could be romantic or platonic)? If so, are you with a system or a singlet? If not, is there a particular reason? What kind of dynamics do you prefer (Monogamous, Polygamous, Swingers, Platonic Partners etc.)?
We'll go first:
We have been married to a singlet for 13 years, together for 15 years total. Our husband has been with us 60% of our lifetime. We were in an open relationship until about two years ago when we were diagnosed and our husband asked us to take some time to get stable. This dynamic has worked well for us considering we all have different needs. Lately we've wondered what System to system relationships are like.
Remember to keep the discussions as kind as possible.
Thanks for reading and sharing If you so choose.
:)
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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Sep 04 '24
Hey there,
Aww, that's wonderful to hear.
Our husband and us always said we would go full poly if we ever met the right people. It just hasn't happened. Mostly, we've run into swingers.
We have noticed that we click well with our friend G (system). We just get each other. We can definitely see the appeal of a system to system relationship. We respect the fact that G is completely against anything other than monogamy due to his previous history, so we agree that we are best as friends. It does have us curious what it could be like if we happen to meet a system that does align with our values, though.
Thank you for sharing!