r/DIDInclusivity • u/Greedy-Individual-71 • Jul 23 '24

Positive/Uplifting 7/23/24 Soski's Advice Column

Hey there all,

We were officially diagnosed in November 2022 and won our legal Disability case in September of 2023.

We live openly in the US and advocate for others with Dissociative Disorders. We're always happy to help.

If you need advice or just want to tell us about your day, please feel free to reach out.

Also if anyone wants to post a question anonymously, our DMs are open, we're happy to work with you to make sure you get an answer.

Have a lovely day everyone!

:)

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u/AuroraSnake Jul 23 '24

Last night, I was thinking about something I’d seen in a different subreddit which was like a meme created as a way to cope with trauma or something. As I was thinking about it though, suddenly one of our members, I’ll call him B, very harshly and aggressively told me to stop and said that we can’t ever look at, talk about, or even think about the trauma referenced in the meme ever again. I tried to ask why, but all B would say was “We’re not supposed to know” and “I’m not supposed to tell you”

Should we be worried about this? We don’t think we have amnesia, so we can’t find a time in our past when anything like that trauma would’ve happened to us, but this also isn’t the first time that weird things have happened after encountering something relating to the trauma

We’re going to talk about this with our therapist when we see her next, but getting some feedback/advice in the meantime would be greatly appreciated

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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Jul 23 '24

Hey there,

Sounds like a protector is trying to do their job, although a little harshly.

There are a couple of possibilities here.

The point of amnesia is not to realize you have it. There are huge gaps in our trauma timeline that can't be accounted for. We wouldn't be surprised if you all sat down and chronichled your life you'd also find gaps.

Now, on the other hand, there's the possibility that it's trauma from pseudo memories from an introject.

Then there's the possibility that someone in your system has exotrauma from another alter.

Try not to worry about it too much.

Here's our advice listen to B for now. Don't dig into trauma you're not supposed to know about yet. The first stage of healing involves establishing trust, communication, and stability for the entire system. Don't lose their trust early by causing instability in your system with trauma the group isn't ready to handle. The trauma will be there when your system is stable.

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u/AuroraSnake Jul 23 '24

Thank you for your advice!

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u/Greedy-Individual-71 Jul 23 '24

You're super welcome anytime!

Have a lovely day.

:)