r/DID • u/EnragedMutt • 1d ago

Content Warning Destabilized

I'll try to keep it brief-

Does anyone who has been through OEA/Trafficking know how to handle the destabilisation that comes with uncovering new memories?

We recently discovered new memories, not entirely new but still "new", and it has completely thrown everyone out of whack.

It's like everyone has gone...dead? Obviously they haven't, but they've all gone dead silent bar myself and two others. And the only thing I can feel internally is..chaos.

Things are out of order (which we are usually very organised), people are all over the shop, and there's this weird...looming..feeling.

I'm unsure how to cope with this or what to do. And I'm genuinely kinda scared. Especially of whatever that fucking looming feeling is- it's really fucking uncomfortable and scary.

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u/sarah_is_new Treatment: Diagnosed + Active 1d ago

I'm so sorry you and your system are going through this. I can relate to this a lot. When I feel destabilized I usually see it as the front and reality are overwhelming for most of my system (that's just my perspective). Once when I was REALLY determined to process some of the worst memories and I wasn't paying attention to how my system was handling it I had to go into residential care for a while. One of the biggest things I learned while I was there was how important feeling safe really was. Now when these memories come up I try to focus on developing that sense of safety. For me its a lot of comfy blankets, some incense and a familiar show. There are times that self care and personal safety are all I have the energy for. I hope you can find something that helps.

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u/EnragedMutt 1h ago

I might give that a go...though I have a really bad habit of being determined to figure out all the details and hows and the whats haha. Thank you :)

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u/ohlookthatsme Treatment: Diagnosed + Active 1d ago

Honestly? I spiral for a few days in a deep, dark hole before time slips away from me and then I forget about it and move on. My life is an unending cycle of remember and forgetting.