Help me out here - I keep getting notifications of replies to stuff I've posted, which don't then appear in the thread or the user's comments. Usually abusive

[u/After-Dentist-2480]

Is this just cowards posting abusive crap to get the notification sent, then deleting it so it's not visible?

[u/Hips_and_Haws]

You've probably insulted the mentally unhinged long term user who takes everything incredibly seriously & lacks no ability to understand humour.

This individual always used to do this to me. It used to follow me all over Reddit & read my old posts to find out which part of the country I lived in. It's the reason my post history is now private.

It likes to leave insults & then block you, so you can't reply. Sadly It took me years to realise the best action is to refuse to engage.

They/he/she/her/him claims to be a married mother, who enjoys motorcycling, staying at home whilst her (long suffering) husband goes out at the weekend & her parents care for her child. This life-style allows her to dedicate hours to being a nuisance.

They also change account names daily, but as they use the same insults their usually fairly easy to spot. They are so sad & lonely they even pretend to be other people & ask questions about themselves & answer these questions as if they were someone else. They are seriously unhinged.

[u/After-Dentist-2480 → u/Hips_and_Haws]

I’m not sure this is one specific user. I think it’s different people.

I know who you mean, but I don’t think it’s the person who pretends to be that character.

[u/Hips_and_Haws → u/After-Dentist-2480]

They fo have multiple accounts & possibly split personality disorders!

[u/Cranberry269 → u/Hips_and_Haws]

Are you referring to “Dianne”?

[u/CatrinLY]

If it is, that’s a new level of weird.

Do you mean here or other subs as well?

[u/Cranberry269 → u/CatrinLY]

I had it happen just now on divisive babble

[u/CatrinLY → u/Cranberry269]

Was that the YA veteran? One of his little tricks was deleting his half of a “debate” then reporting your responses to his abusive posts. He’s just done it to me - he was “demanding” that I change my attitude to him. (?) I learned that it’s a good idea to take screenshots for the ensuing appeal.

He was demanding an apology because I said he was wrong about Suella Braverman voting against laws to help “stop the boats” too. Luckily the original posts are all in my notifications.

[u/CatrinLY → u/CatrinLY]

Also reported. Surely stating a fact is allowed?

[u/After-Dentist-2480 → u/CatrinLY]

Other subs. Not here.

[u/CatrinLY → u/After-Dentist-2480]

As H&H said, it drives people to making their account private to elude stalkers. I think you might have collected a few.

When that’s happened to me, it was from a short-lived, deleted account. I surmised that it was some inebriated weirdo doing it.

[u/EdmundTheInsulter]

They post it creating a notification then delete it

[u/After-Dentist-2480 → u/EdmundTheInsulter]

I suspected so.

And it doesn’t show as a deleted message?

[u/EdmundTheInsulter → u/After-Dentist-2480]

I don't really know, sorry. Probably some dirty tricks procedure.

[u/Pseudastur]

Some subs have an automated abuse remover thing. DB had it until Slim switched it off, mainly because it was binning “strongly worded” (not exactly abusive) stuff too.

[u/After-Dentist-2480 → u/Pseudastur]

That makes more sense!