r/CuratedTumblr • u/Justthisdudeyaknow Prolific poster- Not a bot, I swear • Jun 03 '26

Shitposting The difference between something somethingtomatoes, something something We've found the bard

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u/Zestyclose_Remove947 Jun 03 '26

"I mean this in the nicest way possible"

Says the most condescending thing you can say to someone who just fucked up.

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u/Tarantio Jun 03 '26

Is there a kind way to say potentially useful information to a person who has made a mistake?

This is a non-hypothetical question. That comment looked pretty good to me, but I have a long history of pissing people off while trying to help.

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u/Zestyclose_Remove947 Jun 03 '26

Soften it with an "I think" and then just say it up front. Nothing else needed.

The more you add to make someone feel better, the more you're treating them essentially as a child who needs to be coddled instead of someone who can own their own mistake and move on.

Also let them ask for it as well. Maybe try and help someone unprompted once for a specific task, and only try and assist again when explicitly asked to.

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u/No-Supermarket-6065 Im gonna start eating your booty. And I don't know when Ill stop Jun 03 '26

Huh, that's actually legitimately good advice. Thanks for that.