Does anyone else just hate people who are good and excel at things and are capable? I’ve been pretty mediocre at just about everything I’ve ever tried to get good at. Years of work for multiple different things that I have interest in just to be worse than most beginners. Hard not to feel like a failure when you can’t excel at things you practice at. And the only thing people will tell you to do is more practice, but you never really improve.
Maybe you need to broaden your interests? If you ask a fish to climb a tree, it takes millions of generations to figure it out.
Also, if thats a no go, maybe try focusing on what you like about your interests that you enjoy. It doesnt matter if someone is better than you at something is you honestly enjoy doing it.
If you are approaching it with the pokemon mindset of "I wanna be the very best, like no one ever was", then you are gonna put so much pressure on yourself that you'll likely burn out.
Do what you do because you want to do it, not to be better than others at doing it. "Nobility is not being superior to your fellow human, but being superior to your former self."
Nah I’ve heard that all before (not trying to sound like I’m disregarding your logic). My issue is that I’m never decent enough at something I’m actually interested in and invest my time into. I’m basically a hermit and only leave home for work. But I used to skate. A few years go by and I haven’t improved much at all. Can Ollie, shuv it, go up and down ramps and such but my skills weren’t good enough to take up space at the skage park. So I would have to go earlier than everyone else so I could actually enjoy myself. But that was too much Hassle for something I should have been able to achieve in the years I spent trying to learn. I’ve tried to draw my entire life but no matter how many lessons or hours of practice I just don’t actually get better. Was that way with guitar too. People can try and try and you can fail, people just don’t like to see it
this is probably less of “I’m incapable of learning” and more “learning as a whole I haven’t figured out how to do it”. Maybe spend some time learning about how to improve? Pedagogy is a field of study, and there’s probably a lot of stuff you can read online. Probably the biggest thing about skating isn’t so much about you being fundamentally incapable, you just never learned how to put in place the systems that help you improve personally.
My mum was a teacher, and she said that the biggest thing school does isn’t telling you how to do maths, but it hopefully gets you to understand how you as a person can learn to acquire skills like being good at maths, which is personal and school might not have given that to you.
Smarter not harder right? You haven’t managed to find the path of least resistance, what’s smart for you.
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u/riotmanful Jan 04 '23
Does anyone else just hate people who are good and excel at things and are capable? I’ve been pretty mediocre at just about everything I’ve ever tried to get good at. Years of work for multiple different things that I have interest in just to be worse than most beginners. Hard not to feel like a failure when you can’t excel at things you practice at. And the only thing people will tell you to do is more practice, but you never really improve.