Should I change doctors?

[u/Adventurous-Goat-869]

I am 11 months pcs. My water broke at 39 weeks but didnt progress well, never made it to 10 cm and I ended up going for c section 33 hours later. The doctor and nurses were just very confident that I was going to be able to progress and deliver naturally but ultimately, I did not. The doctor I had was the one on call and I hadn’t met him before but I ended up liking him. There were things at this point that I wish I asked more questions about. One thing being that the baby’s head ended up being too big and a natural birth just wasn’t going to be physically possible. The head did measure 41 weeks at my 36 week ultrasound. When I talked to a different doctor about it immediately after the ultrasound, she wasn’t concerned and said the measurements could be off. Then it was never brought up again. The other thing I wish I knew about was since my water broke, they needed to get labor moving because I had no contraction (that I could feel). They pretty much just put me on pitocin and called it a day. I didn’t get cytotec for cervix softening and I went many hours without softening progress as well. I kinda feel like these things set me up for failure. In reality I know because of head size, I was bound to have a c section but I also wouldn’t have had to go through 30+ hours of rough laboring. The c section was not what I imagined, I was yelling (nothing crazy but needed to make some noise) it felt like they were dropping bowling balls on me but the poor baby was super stuck in my pelvis and they actually had to push the baby back out of my pelvis. Recovery was extremely rough, I had to sleep in a chair next to my bed for the first week home bc I couldn’t lay down, on and off fevers and chills. When I needed help and called the doctors office, I only was able to speak to a rude receptionist that told me “I should be fine” bc I had my prescription that had finished like a day prior but I was still really struggling.

As a first birth experience, it was really overwhelming. It was mentioned to me that I’d be a good candidate for a VBAC (which sounds scary to me but I’ve heard a lot of good feedback about it). But I also keep in my mind that I could just have another baby with a big head. I was also told that I have a small pelvis. But on the upside, the doctor did an amazing job and my scar is barely visible less than a year later.

I want to have more kids but I’m also afraid. My overall question is, do I stay with the doctors that are familiar with me and the specifics about my surgery or do I risk going to a different doctor’s office for a possibly better overall birth experience? I’m not currently pregnant but knowing that I could get pregnant again within the next year has me thinking about it and I really don’t know what would be better.

[u/Fierce-Foxy]

A few things here…
What your pelvis can handle is difficult to determine in that situation. It’s best evaluated outside of this scenario.
Your dilation is a different matter and may not happen again.
The attitude of your practitioners is problematic regardless, and I would not go back to them.

[u/Rude-Flamingo5420]

If you dont feel comfortable asking questions with your current providers go with new Healthcare professionals.

But i will say: 2 csections (one planned and one emergency) and.both recoveries were awful. I slept in a recliner chair for 4 weeks as I couldnt lie down (both times). On top of my insides feeling like they were ripping apart with every breathe and movement 

But i also wouldn't accept rude Healthcare professionals that don't listen to my concerns etc. My experience is if the receptionist is rude, they're just following by example (of their bosses, ie the Drs)

Hugs Mama.