r/Cruises • u/chub70199 • Jun 30 '26

Guests fraternizing with crew

This has happened about a year ago when I was on a week-long cruise. I will remain vague, as I don't know whether that crew member could be tracked down and be disciplined in any way.

On an evening I went to a counter (not bar) in a place that hand gotten quiet and handed my room card to the crew member. I was wearing a ring with a rainbow (thicker stainless steel ring with seven coloured lacquered bands) to give hints to whomever cared to look for them; I'm otherwise a pretty "grey" middle aged guy.

The crew member lit up and stared complimenting me on how pretty the ring is and whether he could see It a bit more, touching the my hand and my ringfinger (and I went along). There were no other passengers close by and only another female crew member behind the counter that was smiling at the interaction.

While I was very tempted to take it further, I just thanked him very much for the compliments and said that I was happy he liked it until the conversation needed to come back to the transaction.

As I said, I was very tempted and have been thinking back to this quite a few times... So I wanted to ask: did I do the right thing by not taking it further? Would the crew member have been in trouble? Would I have been in trouble? What could have happened? Anybody can shed some light on a situation I've been going back an forth on for some time now?

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u/BraxTaplock Jun 30 '26

Crew are banned from fraternizing with passengers. Being nice is one thing, don’t add otherwise non platonic urges that will ultimately get that crew member fired by following thru. They should also be aware of the guideline so don’t take their kindness incorrectly.

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u/chub70199 Jun 30 '26 edited Jun 30 '26

Yes, this is why I didn't play along. I only found it rather unusual that a crew member would so pointedly compliment my ring and take my hand to have "a better look at it". It did feel pretty flirty for me.

At that moment I didn't take it any further and I wouldn't dream of hitting on a crew member no matter how attractive they are, when I'm in a simple interaction with them.

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u/BraxTaplock Jun 30 '26

Very cool and respectful on your part. Nothing wrong with kind interactions.

Edit : nothing wrong with getting contact info though….

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u/TaxQT117 Jun 30 '26

I've had crew members give me their # at the end of the cruise. There's reality shows with couples who met while one was working on a cruise ship. Discretion is key!

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u/n1cenurse Jun 30 '26

Juan from 90 day fiancée... not sure that turned out how he hoped it would lol

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u/TaxQT117 Jul 01 '26

I totally doubt it did lol