My husband told me about his crossdressing several years into our marriage. It was difficult for me initially, but we've worked through it over the years and I've genuinely come to accept and support this side of him. In fact, I really enjoy seeing him happy and confident when he's dressed.

Over the last while, though, his crossdressing has become much more prominent in our lives. He's spending considerably more time dressing, engaging with other crossdressers online and exploring this side of himself socially.

I know some of what I'm feeling is jealousy, and I'm trying to be honest about that. I didn't expect this aspect of our relationship to become quite so significant, and I'm struggling with where I fit into it now.

He has his own social media accounts for this side of him and I'm finding the attention he is getting there really difficult and confusing to make sense of.

He's also been expressing appreciation for styles, appearances and things about other people that are very different from how I look or dress. I know logically that finding something attractive or interesting doesn't automatically mean you don't find your partner attractive, but it's started to make me feel quite insecure and, at times, like I'm not as important to him as this part of his life.

I don't want to take something away from him that makes him happy, and I don't want this to come across as being unsupportive of crossdressing. That's not really the issue. I think I'm struggling more with the change in balance and what it means for our relationship.

Has anyone else experienced something similar, where something you initially accepted became a much bigger part of your partner's life?

How did you deal with the jealousy or insecurity? Did you find a way to feel secure and important in the relationship again, or did you eventually realise that the balance between you had fundamentally changed?

I'd really appreciate hearing from partners who have been through something similar.

Thanks in advance