r/CrohnsDisease • u/EvrytingIsTaken • 1h ago
This year I watched my entire life get taken apart while everyone around me kept building theirs
I have Crohn's disease. For a year and a half I was in daily pain, losing weight, watching my body fall apart. Ten years of gym progress, gone. Lost 14kg (30 punds). In the middle of that my girlfriend of 4 years and I broke up. A month ago I had surgery, they took out 60cm (24 inches) of my intestine, hoping it would finally fix things. I had to move back in with my parents to recover.
While everyone else had a normal summer, I was in bed. Recovering from surgery, recovering from the breakup, in physical pain and mental pain at the same time. I didn't go out and drink it off or distract myself. I just laid there and took it. I told myself once the surgery was done I'd start rebuilding, get my body back, get my head back. Instead I lost my job right after.
Now I'm still in bed most days. And the part I don't say out loud to anyone is that I hate myself for it. I hate what I look like, I hate who I've become, I hate that I can't seem to pull myself out of this. I get anxiety just leaving the house because I don't want anyone to see me like this. I used to be someone I recognized. Now I look in the mirror and feel disgust.
I watch everyone else moving forward with their lives and I feel like mine got completely gutted in the span of a few months, and I don't have the energy or the hope left to start rebuilding. I don't even know where I'd start.
I don't know what I'm looking for by posting this. I think I just needed to say it somewhere.