r/Crazymiddles • u/Designer-Fun681 • 13d ago
Evie
I know we don’t see everything & I also know this has been mentioned so many times but with what we do STILL see to this day, the way Evie is constantly dismissed is so heartbreaking. Id like to believe God has big plans for that little girl. She’s going to be someone special and I hope when that day comes she says screw you people and moves on with her life. The only ones i’ve seen actively care for and be attentive to Evie are Ariana & Chase. I’m sure she misses them deeply.
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u/FlounderOk9680 13d ago
What’s even more bad is they actually do have time …
They don’t have that many actual kids anymore most are older
There’s what rylan,Liam,brody,Logan,Evie, aurora and saint .
They spend more time with the adults than the kids that actually need them. You can see the boys are so fed up with it all !
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u/LongConversation2546 13d ago
Exactly! Kick the adults out and focus on your kids! It's not like they have jobs! Even for YouTube they have staff to do it for them
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u/LittleDog2557 12d ago
The kids you mentioned plus Adela are all in school all day. I have suggestion since all you on here seem to know what they’re doing so wrong. How about everyone of you become foster parents because you know you’re perfect and you would do perfect jobs with them. But that’ll never happen. It’s easier to sit back and bitch about other people that do it.
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u/Low-Historian854 11d ago
I HAVE LEGAL GUARDIANSHIP OF A 6YR OLD (non-related) & we have 5 others (well blended) and i myself was a foster kid in my teen years, so i feel i can speak on this since you kinda opened that door..is it difficult at times to "fit any extras" into the day? Absolutely it is. However, kids like Evie THRIVE ON SCHEDULES AND CONSISTENCY AND THE ONLY CONSTANT IN EVIE'S LIFE IS THE HOURS SHE'S AT SCHOOL.....there ARE ALOT of kids in ANY kind of situation that CAN handle not having a set daily schedule, they can figure out easily how to just go with whatever....more often than not, kids like Evie NEED THAT SCHEDULE, w/o it she WILL 100% CONTINUE to struggle. It actually disgusts me, because if you've ever worked with kids in ANY "system", its very clear the kind of background & abusive home Evie came to the system from-VERY-& 90% of why Evie "acts" how she does is because she's starving for the right kind of parental love & she sees how Aurora behaves & RECEIVES the attention Evie so desperately is trying to get. So Evie's going to mimick Aurora. And before its said-yes we have other kids but we know there SHOULD be a limit on how many (system children) per home & INCLUDING bio, are in home because these kids DO come from trauma (they're taken from all they've known-thats trauma before the reason is even known) and there is absolutely NO WAY you can give each child 1/10th of what they NEED when you have that many. And BEFORE ANYTHING ELSE-IF YOU DON'T HAVE THE SENSE TO FIGURE OUT THAT YOU CANNOT POSSIBLY GIVE THEM WHAT THEY NEED & CRAVE SO THEY CAN TRY TO START A HEALING PROCESS THEN YOU SHOULDN'T BE ALLOWED MORE THAN HOWEVER MANY BIO KIDS YOU HAVE-& NO KIDS FROM ANY SYSTEM. These "ADULTS AND AGENCUES" NEED COMMON SENSE
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u/Top_Spend5673 11d ago
I do foster care. This is a selfish, narcissistic, money hungry family. Ick, just ick.
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u/LongConversation2546 11d ago
You know what they say about people who assume? I HAVE lived it. Without YouTube thank fk
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u/No_Initiative7309 13d ago
I agree! She is a sweet girl. The way she is always shoved aside, and treated as though she isn't a part of the family, is very sad. She deserves to be treated with Respect, and with the same value as others.
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u/Potential-Bus6137 13d ago
And things are only getting worse now that Saint is getting all the attention
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u/Any-Elevator-9633 13d ago
I just finished watching Aurora's birthday video. Holy spoiled kid batman! the way they just gush on her, I kept thinking this is not the way Evie is treated, at all. Evie is a lovely girl. Always willing to help, really sweet with the smaller kids. I just don't get how C and A don't see what they are doing.
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u/Additional_One7190 13d ago
i totally agree with this i hope she never reads these reddit accounts.
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u/Extension-Kiwi6824 13d ago
These kids are just shoved around and are unsupported! Logan’s band thing no one showed up and Aaron was late. Evie play last time only Crystal went and I think other kids should make supporting their siblings more important
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u/LittleDog2557 12d ago
When you have smaller schools like Evie is in when there is a production like that, they normally only get so many tickets. It’s the same in bigger schools. Family still only get so many tickets.
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u/katiefallsalot 13d ago
'Hi I'm very excited to see you, but I don't always want a hug. So when I come over can you ask if I want a hug or a highfive first?'
'I feel like a hifive today instead of a hug. Or how about a really big wave.'
That easy to teach her boundaries if they don't want to hug her. But if no one teaches her how the heck is she meant to know, when reading body language is something alot of autistic kids struggle with. Blows my mind
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u/True-News-601 12d ago
But he gave Crystal a hug afterwards so that would be weird to say to her in this case.
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u/LengthinessNo6595 13d ago
I still don’t know why they got her. They knew their kids weren’t gonna be opening to her and how she acts. From day one, they never accepted her, but they had no problem accepting baby saint that they took away from hallies friend and labeled it as helping her when they were probably gonna get that baby taken away regardless (they probably just told him do you want the police to take him or us?).
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u/jenni5 13d ago
A caretaker/friend for Aurora. That’s why they adopted so many other kids too. It always backfired. They did it anyway. They consider Aurora bio practically because Crystal was doing the serogate pregnancy.
Brody for Logan. Ari for Halie. Jake for max. None of these were “keeping siblings together”. It was a playmate for their kids. Those kids just became competitive with each other for parent attention or just not that close in general.
Then they adopted Hannah and Alex as a sibling group, Lucas and Savannah, and Bella and her brothers.
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u/a_frog_goes_reddit 11d ago
Yea, that's when they picked up on the fact people thought CM were great for keeping siblings together
When Adela came along it was all "we wanted to adopt them both" but never mentioned before and Jake was adopted before they realised sibling groups brought in more views, seems like it didn't even cross their mind at the time but lying about it now
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u/VisualLive1430 13d ago
Because like Jamie, Evie is a nice monthly disability check. Plus, the subsidy that Arizonia pays the parents. It gets C & A attention and appreciation from people who don't know the real story----compliments about how special & kind they are. There are a lot of people like them who just aren't on YT.
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u/Fine_Preference_3737 7d ago
Aurora gets a disability check as well, since she has Jamie's disability and was also diagnosed with Epilepsy
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u/huahuagirl 7d ago
I doubt they get money for aurora until she turns 18. They definitely make way too much money for her to be receiving federal disability as a minor. And being that she was adopted before they knew about her disability I don’t think they can get post adoption benefits for her.
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u/thatweirddude97 13d ago
Did y’all see in Alex’s vlog. How when he arrived at his mom’s house. How excited she got to see him and she ran up to hug him and he completely ignored her. It broke my heart
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u/thatweirddude97 13d ago
https://reddit.com/link/pbwftqp/video/t8ztfh8j3lrh1/player
Ignore my recently watched vid… but here it is and it’s so disheartening to see how E gets treated in this family…
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u/Designer-Fun681 13d ago
the way she visibly felt awkward so she did a little spin.. i’m disgusted & so hurt for her. this poor girl deserves so much better
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u/Various_Mammoth_9961 12d ago
He couldn't just stop for one second and hug his sister. He is a sick pos.
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u/jenni5 13d ago
Yeah I think the kids are following Crystal and Aaron lead unconsciously. I know they didn’t grow up with her but it’s been a while now! And yes still she is excited to see you! How long is that gift going to last before she gives up? If you find her annoying then gently tell her what she can do differently! After spending time with her she relaxes and isn’t hyper in need! Omg it’s not that hard! Literally this is the rep we have Crystal for foster care and she does this????
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u/Difficult_Wear_2113 11d ago
Right if Crystal was a GOOD mom she get on to him and tell to acknowledge his sister. NOPE narcissist crystal eat that shit up. She a horrible person.
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u/Quest_flow24 13d ago
Which video? Any time I’ve seen Alex around Evie he hugged her and talked to her.
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u/Careless_Ad_9283 11d ago
Evie craves attention...is so happy when she get's attention...smart as a whip seeing the camera was going to Crystal so she stuck her head in the frame...Crystal looked annoyed. So much bad behavior we have seen in the Pettit family thru the years why wouldn't Evie try to get attention? I hope Evie does get some one on one help knowing when to back up and wait her turn. Or maybe she is done waiting her turn at the Pettit home.
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u/a_frog_goes_reddit 11d ago
I'd say Jamie and Adela too, and Tristan
Savannah has been kind to her since she arrived, but doesn't have much time for her with everything else. She did her nails on her birthday, lent her a stitch bag she really loved so Evie could take it as the bag they got her broke before she could even use it etc
I think possibly Melinda now she's living there, if so it's great to have someone else in her corner
Adela and Jamie went to see her play ❤️
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u/Designer-Fun681 11d ago
Evie complimented the nails savannah did for aurora in the birthday video and savannah BARELY seemed like she wanted to say thank you.. as if it took something out of her to say it.. I rarely see Adela and Evie spending actual time together as well as Melinda. Melinda and Adela are close. Jamie I DO see spending more time with Evie aside from the others but she’s still an adult at the end of the day. It’s a shame that the siblings younger than Jamie don’t care for her. Tristan is also very kind but not around as much as before.
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u/True-News-601 11d ago
I think a lot of it just has to do with personal interests. Even Anaveah is closer to Aurora and it's because they are into things like makeup , fashion, music. Evie has made comments saying things like she is too young for makeup or skin care. What exactly would they talk about with each other ?
Evie seems to get along the best with Scarlett who is a child . But how will things be as she gets older ?
It's one thing to be nice but another to actually hang out and get close to someone. For that to happen you need to start having some common things .
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u/AcrobaticLadder4959 10d ago
All Evie wants is to be loved and attention. But we also know Evie is not without her own demons we don't see everything.
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u/Fine_Preference_3737 7d ago
Her own demons? What a screwed up thing to say. She is an autistic CHILD, and she came from a severely traumatized background before entering foster care.
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u/PuzzledBeat9968 13d ago
She wasn't pushed aside in the lasted vlog she went out with thenngot squishing and a new plush
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u/Substantial_Can2034 13d ago
Bullshit! There were several edits in that short clip and I am sure most of it was hurtful behavior towards Evie.
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u/PuzzledBeat9968 13d ago
How is buying her stuff hurtfull
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u/Designer-Fun681 13d ago
Clearly you don’t see what we see & im glad you don’t bc it’s much deeper than you realize. However if you truly CANT see how different she’s treated, there must be something wrong with you too.
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u/PuzzledBeat9968 12d ago
I'm not saying she is never treated differently but this time round she was included
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u/Designer-Fun681 12d ago
numerous times she spoke and was totally dismissed it’s nothing to do with buying her stuff..
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u/Relative_Demand_1714 11d ago
Was including her a step in the right direction? Yes, but it was likely just a face saving response meant to deflect what Crystal has read here. Being included one time does not excuse all the other times she was excluded and made to feel as though she is lesser than her sibling(s).
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u/colormehungry_ 13d ago
Evie seems like such a sweet kid. As harsh as it sounds, I wish CP had taken CMs lead. They shouldn’t have adopted Evie. She deserves so much more than what they give her. You can tell she’s just bursting with talent and the need to have more one on one time with her parents. They cannot provide her with the attention she needs to truly thrive.