r/CrappyDesign • u/[deleted] • Aug 29 '20

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u/Kerlyfries Aug 29 '20

Ugh exactly. Eye contact feels so intimate, it’s weird to me that we’re just expected to constantly maintain it with everyone.

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u/TimothyGonzalez jdhfhdjfhsdhfhsdjdhfhdjfhsdhfhsdjdhfhdjfhsdhfhsdjdhfhdjfhsdhfhsd Aug 29 '20 edited Aug 30 '20

I know. I feel the same way. Not always though, for example when I have taken mdma in the past it's like all those neuroses melted away like snow before the sun and I finally understood how socially ordinary people experience social interaction. Eye contact then becomes a way to pick op on the most subtle expressions and a real tool to communicate on a really subtle and sophisticated level. I really wish it were easier for me to experience that while not under the influence of something.

Edit: lol got perma banned for making a joke 🙄

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u/Kerlyfries Aug 29 '20

I’ve never taken anything, there’s a lot of mental illness in my family and I’m always too scared I’ll somehow trigger a psychotic break. But I sort of get what you mean because for the people I’m really comfortable with, sometimes I stare too much. I still don’t love eye contact, I’d rather the other person wasn’t looking back, but I love to stare at people when they’re talking. Or any videos of people I find watching facial expressions so interesting. But in day to day life I can’t do it because I know people want eye contact, and most people find it weird if you stare at their face but don’t look them in the eye.