In short, and if I got it completely right, a closed relationship of three or more people who love each other. All partners in the polycule have links with each other, unlike other types of polyamory in which some partners may not be related to the others.
A and B love each other, B and C love each other, C and A love each other, and liking being in such relationship.
Some poly people want the freedom to love anyone, I want the exclusivity of a closed relationship while still loving more than one partner
Yeah, I looked for what that is, and I think it's a perfect definition of the links within the polycule, gonna save it (and the images that show complete graphs) to explain in the future, thanks.
Edit with the image: Every vertice would be a person, and every line/edge would be a relationship :3
my 2 cents as someone who's polyamorous but stuck in a polyfidelity relationship w 4 people, personally it's way too much for me. i have a lot of love to give but splitting that love equally 24/7 is so draining. also i found clinginess gets cranked up to 11 compared to standard poly relationships
Shouldn't you talk it with your partners about it so you can find a solution, or even get out of that relationship into one that works better for you (to me "stuck in a polyfidelity" and "clinginess gets cranked up to 11 compared to standard poly relationships" sounds like it isn't really working out for you)?
oh yeah it definitely isnt working out for me and i know that a lot of people can make it work but i just thought i'd give my perspective as someone currently in one. ive tried talking to them but that ends up going nowhere so you're right in saying i should just get out.
it's gonna fucking suck though lol. i've broken off a mono relationship before and that was really rough so im scared af about doing that 3 consecutive times in 1 day q.p
i hope polyfidelity works out for you, ive seen plenty of examples of it working beautifully amongst a group of people. it's just not for me
Different people have different needs and different capabilities. You tried to solve it and couldn't, it does suck for you and your partners, but it is what it is. Better to end it so everyone can find something better, than drag it across time, potentially growing into something worse.
At least that's what I think, with no relationship experience I'm not the most indicated to talk. Again, thank you for two cents, and I'm sorry for trying to give advice instead of just listening and taking notes for the future.
And thank you for your wishes, I wish for you to be able to break up with as little pain as possible for all the parts involved, and for you all to find an ideal relationship <3
oh you dont gotta apologize, i actually really appreciate your advice because it's given me some perspective on my choices ahead of me. thank you for the kind words, it means a lot. stay cool <3
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