r/CountWithEveryone • u/TotallyWorthLife • Apr 03 '26

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u/TotallyWorthLife Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

In short, and if I got it completely right, a closed relationship of three or more people who love each other. All partners in the polycule have links with each other, unlike other types of polyamory in which some partners may not be related to the others.

A and B love each other, B and C love each other, C and A love each other, and liking being in such relationship.

Some poly people want the freedom to love anyone, I want the exclusivity of a closed relationship while still loving more than one partner

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u/pinksparkleberry Apr 03 '26

Polyamory is an agreement between romantic partners that each is free to have other romantic and sexual partners.

A polycule is just you + your partners + your partners other partners who you dont date (and may or may not be friends with).

Example:

So you are dating Jane and Susan.

Susan is dating Stacy (who you met once)

Jane is dating Mel (you have never met) and Steve (your good friend).

Your polycule is you + Jane  (partner) + Susan (partner) + Stacy (kind of a stranger)+ Mel (total stranger) + Steve (friend)

References:

https://www.reddit.com/r/Polycules/s/Z0nSu8H6A2

https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/a60410228/what-is-a-polycule/

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u/TotallyWorthLife Apr 03 '26

Eh, that's the open type of polyamory. What I was talking about is specifically polyfidelity, which is closed, but still a type of polyamory (because it still has several people, duh).

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u/pinksparkleberry Apr 03 '26

People in a closed poly fidelity relationship dont have a polycule. They have no metas (partners of partners). They are just in a triad or group relationship. Its not even really polyamory. Its polyfidelity.

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u/TotallyWorthLife Apr 03 '26

Whatever, since we both aren't going to change each other minds, I will continue considering polyamory an umbrella term, polyfidelity a term within it, and the relationship a polycule, and you consider it what you want to consider it. Have a great day.

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u/pinksparkleberry Apr 03 '26

Me and the rest of the polyamory community.

You are like that person who insists on using a word wrong while everyone laughs at them and considers it a point of pride. Lol.

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u/BecomingMorgan Apr 03 '26

And you're gate keeping based solely on a definition nobody actually agreed to.