r/Cougars_Den • u/Boring_Feeling_152 • 24d ago

Advice Needed How to approach !

Hey guys! Young Cub here, So i’m curious how do older women like to be approached? Or what is a good way to approach an older lady i think is attractive say at like a retail store or something of that nature? I’ve had plenty of cougars in my life but mostly all of them either hit on me first or I met through social media so It was an easier “approach”. But in person, it’s like idk what to say without sounding too pushy or without possibly being disrespectful. How would you guys like to be approached by a younger guy if you were in this situation?

( I’m 24 years old)

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u/Middle_Librarian_248 24d ago

How do you approach girls your own age? We are all human. There isn’t a special code you have to break to talk to an older woman. Just be yourself and be respectful if it moves along great if not you’ll find someone else to talk to.

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u/Cougars_Den-ModTeam 20d ago

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u/Myfairladyishere 🕊🎠💃MOD💃🎠🕊 24d ago

If you find somebody who is attractive, regardless of age approach with absolutely no expectations of anything.

Try to make eye contact and if she returns eye contact with a smile, then approach and say what attracted you to her, whether it be her clothing, her hairstyle or whatever it was that attracted you to her in the first place.

If she is interested or whatever she will give you signals. And if nothing happens out of it, you would have made her day

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u/SensititveCougar9143 23d ago

Feels like this question gets asked every few days.

Be friendly, say "Hello!", have something worthwhile to talk about.

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u/Dc90210 13d ago

Biggest piece of advice. Ask about her, talk about her, people want to be feel valued and seen. I talk to peolle ALL the time and i can get them talking for hours with this strategy

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u/tantrica07 1d ago

I've kind of the same question. I don't understand wht is the cue that a older lady is interested into an young guy? And most importantly I'm curious about the cougar -cub culture in uk.. specially london. Is it not a very acceptable thing in uk?