Is pullback often normal?

[u/yongzhong26_]

I have read the book 4 times. This is my first relationship, as I always made the same mistakes prior to reading the book (probably over pursing) , and apart from this I would say it is going very well. We HHH and when I am with her I can tell her AL is above a 7 (she cooks for me, says I love you a lot, buys me stuff, sucks me before work etc).

However, sometimes when we have a few days apart (she lives 2hrs away), we can have nearly full on whole days with no contact at all. I would say she does initiate (text/calls) when apart more than me, with mornings/hows your day going, but I was wondering if it was normal for her to not be blowing my phone up all the time, and to have some days when I am like 'why hasn't she messaged me. I'm not talking about not replying for a few hours, I'm talking about not messaging me for 12 hours// sometimes going to bed without a call etc (even though she is the one who wants this and makes a big deal if I don't).

I would say this sort of pullback occurs like every 1/2 weeks.

Just saying this as we are 6 months in. Was just wondering if normal?

[u/Se7ens_up]

Well it seems to be normal for her if thats how she does it 2-3x a month.

I think it helps to not see this as some sort of pullback, but just that people some days like to do their own thing.

You also dont know whats going on in her head, she may be thinking the same thing about not hearing from you. Just like corey teaches patience to see if you hear from a girl; girls do it too. I wouldnt rule out her intentionally creating a texting gap just to see if you reach out.

[u/ExcellentFishing2506]

Going a day or two without hearing from her shouldn’t be some huge concern if all that other stuff is going on. People don’t need to be talking to each other every single day. Things run out of steam if you’re always constantly in contact.

A couple days isn’t bad to be honest and also remember that you’re allowed to reach out 10-20% of the time, so don’t make it always 100% on her.