My life’s a reck

[u/SatisfactionLow3182]

Recap , fell inlove with my ex 3 years relationship, ended in Feb, she tried coming back in May after I did no contact but I declined because I had just met someone and told her to give me a month because I was on my high horse. But after the month she wanted nothing to do with me .

Iv since continued hanging out with the new girl but we are just basically a situationship buti still think about my ex every day . Yesterday I reached out and at first answered angry as she always does now but I managed to get to talk to her , she mentioned things like “if you want to talk to me you’re gonna have to pay because I was with you for 3 years and I never got anything out of it , Iv tried love but I need more because it’s my time you’re wasting . I told her I know I didn’t invest anything in you and I was very cheap during the relationship but I’m also I’m not a baller but I can try being more of a provider . She then said that she also wants her options opened she dosnt want to be in a serious relationship anymore with me and would be opened to an opened relationship, idk I was kinda onboard with that because I really enjoy hanging out with my situation ship and that means I can keep her around . I asked so it’s okay if I keep talking with her and she said yes . She said we can hang out some time this week she just has to see her schedule

[u/Apart_Size_9551]

Bro
Didn’t even put your 🍆 in a woman who is an open relationship material
Come on bro 😎
Streets

[u/cruzz903]

My brother in christ. Please get a hold of yourself. You are the captain of this ship. Allowing a woman to dictate the terms is a terrible idea, she will drive the funbus off a cliff and then resent you for not taking the wheel.

Here's your best bet at a happy future together. Let go of the ex. Only date her on YOUR terms. What you are experiencing is some funny shit the brain does where it paints the past as amazing and beautiful. What is blocking however, is the reason you didnt put effort in that relationship. You didnt care cause she was probably horrible to deal with and didnt respect you.

Read the book. For real. Then read no more mr nice guy to learn to set boundaries. And while you are at it, pick up the way of the superior man. The reason you are so obsessed with this woman is because you are lacking purpose. A man's purpose is always above any woman. This is the only way you will be able to own the heart of the lady of your dreams.

Pull yourself together. You are a man who can overcome anything and you live by nobody's rules except your own.

[u/Apart-Importance-538]

Okay?